Ex moved on already

[Usernametaken098]

Hi, I broke up in my ex 6 weeks ago after being together for 18 months.

I've just found out that he's now seeing someone else.

He cheated on me by chatting with other girls and I ended it but I'm now wondering if he's changed and that I wasn't good enough for him because he didn't for me.

I just don't understand how someone who said they loved you can move on so quickly.

I'm even finding it difficult to just smile at guys never mind get into another relationship with them.

I just feel really pants about my love life and how it seems those that hurt others seem to get away with it

No such thing as ‘not good enough’ OP, you just weren’t right for each other. I’ve always taken longer than my exes to move on, we’re all different. Just give yourself time, there’s really no rush is there?

It sounds like sadly he’d moved on before you broke up with him if he was talking to other women.

More likely he just doesnt give a feck about anyone apart from himself. He needs attention from other women to feed his very fragile ego. He 'moved on' easily because he was never that invested in the first place.

But that isn't your fault. Some people are just emotionally stunted and not capable of caring about others, let alone love. Literally anyone to date will do, because they dont care about who you are, they only care about what they want from you. Or her. Or the next one after.

I'm sorry to generalise but men generally do move on quickly because they can separate sex and feelings. That is not all men. I am going through a horrible break up and know he'll do the same when I won't be able to even if I tried. Please do not blame yourself, it's nothing to do with you. Those who hurt others will never truly be happy and their partners certainly won't. He is a cheat and go on to cheat.

It is not a refection on you.

I have posted today and am in such a state I cannot cope with it. I've separated with my now ex before and he quickly moved on. It did not last if that's any consolation. He'll likely have another fling soon while I'm still alone but at least when I meet someone I will mean it xx

What Pandamoore said.

Seems to be pretty easy for men to pretend in a relationship just to get what they want while they stealthy look around for something else.

Has nothing to do with you. Everything to do with their lack of character.