Fantasising about sleeping with someone else?

[loosingtheplott]

Been with my fiancé over three years and have DD and DS together. I'm happy with him he really is my best friend. Our life is tough at the moment as his dads company went bust so we're both working a few different jobs to maintain a normal life.

I love him but can't help but fantasize about the thought of dating and just going through that stage of flirting and wanting to rip their clothes off going on dates ect.

I would never act on it and I'm not sure if their is something wrong with me or whether it's normal. I just look at him sometimes plodding round in his dressing gown and wonder if this is my life forever.

Part of me wonders if it's because we never spend anytime together everything we do involves the kids.

Totally normal.
And tell him to ditch the dressing gown.

V normal. I fall in love with other people on a regular basis (im not naturally monogamous) and so far its yet to take its toll on my marriage. I think a healthy fantasy life is a great way to keep the monotony out of your relationship. You know the grass is greener, you love your OH, but the guy in the corner shop has sexy arms. Such is life.

@SomeoneElseEntirelyNow

How do you cope with it though? After nine years with my partner I’ve started to fantasise about other men. I never have before, and I love my husband very much, but these new feelings are worrying me.

Interestingly, they started after I came off the pill (not trying to get pregnant, just didn’t want to be on it anymore as I’m nearing 40). I think the pill had been lowering my sex drive.

As long as it's just harmless day dreaming, and you're not actively looking for someone to have an affair with, I can't see the problem.

Get a babysitter and have a night out with DH, it might bring back the spark.

I would say it's 100% to do with the fact that you are not having time alone together. You need to continue dating to keep the spark there. Try to have at least one date a month!

I think discreet window shopping is perfectly normal.

@AndSheSteppedOnTheBall i have a great vibrator, a trusty collection of written porn, an active imagination and a husband who thinks the fact that i occasionally lust after the postman is pretty funny.

Ha, lucky you. I’m not sure my husband would be quite so amused. So you’ve never been seriously tempted?

No, it would cost me my marriage. I miss being able to fuck about, but not as much as I'd miss my husband.

Well so would I. Hopefully I’ll get used to this and stop thinking about that doe-eyed waiter...

Or you could both swing?

Think you should ask him to have a threesome. Get your glad rags on and both go out looking for someone to ask to join you. Good fun! Be the hottest couple in town! That way you can both make real your fantasy of sleeping with someone else, and sleep with your husband at the same time. He will also see you in a new sexual light. Thank me later !

I would divorce DH if he wore a dressing gown.

I do this too. I think you just become so used to the routine mundane lifestyle you want some passion back. And my partner isn’t passionate! He’s reliable and sturdy, like a good car. Am I can’t expect him to b what he’s not so I use my imagination!

What’s wrong with dressing gowns??

Depends on the dressing gown. I assume it's something like this

No it's a superman one like this.

Okay I’m not on board with the superman one, but my partner and I practically live in dressing gowns half the time. Nice ones though.

Maybe if he looks like Carlos Spencer c.1997