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Original poster

has anyone ever moved because of horrid neighbours?????

32 replies

Tottie32 · 07/09/2007 20:35

it has been horrid for years, i wont go into what has gone on, but it has got to the point where i hate coming home, i hate being in the garden if they are in theres... hate driving into road and they are stood out front...

problem is house ins local authority rented, if i was to move i would have to private rent.

but i feel my life is taken over with the burden of them... and feel i should move on to start living again

i know i sounds stupid and i shouldnt let it get to me but it does

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theslownorris · 07/09/2007 20:42

I won't go into detail either, but I've been in a similar situation. I think a lot of it may have been my perception (they weren't quite in the league of neighbours from hell), but I know that once you feel like that it is very difficult to change.

Original poster
Tottie32 · 07/09/2007 20:43

did you move?

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Howdydoody · 07/09/2007 20:50

Have you tried the "Mutual Exchange with Homeswap" site?

Original poster
Tottie32 · 07/09/2007 20:55

i will have a look is that what it is called?

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Howdydoody · 07/09/2007 21:12

Am rubbish at links but it's www.homeswapper.co.uk

BaggieBird · 07/09/2007 21:16

I have the same problem in my council flat. The council won't help. In less than 2 weeks I will be in my private rented house and will be rid of him forever.
I know how you feel.

theslownorris · 07/09/2007 21:21

We did and I feel so much better for it. We still live in the same village as these people but I now act like they are total strangers.

petunia · 07/09/2007 21:21

We did 8 years ago. We lived in a new semi-detached house and didn't realise the walls in these houses were so thin. I could have coped with hearing normal day-to-day noises, but what I couldn't cope with was hearing their doors slam, especially their back door. They had this dog that they used to let out in their back garden to do its "business" (and then they used to let the children play out there) because they were too lazy to take it for proper walks. So this back door was slamming several times a day. I used to hate standing in my own kitchen. After asking nicely if they could please shut their doors gently, the Dad seemed to make a point of giving that back door a good slam on purpose, while we tip-toed round our house like mice so that they couldn't accuse us of being noisy!
After 18 months living next door to them, I was a nervous wreck and although we planned to put the house on the market while I was on maternity leave, in the end we did a part exchange for a detached house, and moved on the day that DD1 was due.
But I felt like you do. I hated the house after a while, even though I'd put so much work into decorating it and making it into a nice home.

Nat1H · 07/09/2007 21:22

I would move. My dad got badly beaten up by our idiot neighbour (no provocation, I must add). They moved then.

sparklygothkat · 07/09/2007 21:25

yes I did, My neighbours made the people on 'neighbours from hell' look like angels. We were basically prisoners in our own house, even just going from the front door to the car would result in abuse and things being thrown at us. We were lucky that the council agreed to move us after me phoning them daily in tears

themoon66 · 07/09/2007 21:26

We moved last year, not because of our human neighbour next door, but because of the intensive pig rearing sheds that appeared behind our garden, built by absentee farmer. It sounded like a fight in Jurassic Park over there every day... pigs fight to the death apparently. And the smell.... oh dear, the smell

NAB3 · 07/09/2007 21:26

We did 6 years ago. We would have moved anyway as the house wasn't big enough for 3 kids but it meant we moved sooner.

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Tottie32 · 07/09/2007 21:29

thanks everyone...

baggie bird>>> do you claim HB? if so are the landlord ok with this ..

i do work part time but would get some HB

and is the rent much more than the council rent?

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joopie · 07/09/2007 21:36

we moved 5 months after moving into into a posh new place in london (think fancy waterfront apartment), it was like living above the ministry of sound. we never slept as the pr*ck downstairs would come home from clubbing (on a weeknight) and put his music on full blast, christmas day he was playing his stupid dance music and ruined our first crimbo together in our own place. we were so stressed we nearly divorced after 4 months of marriage. now live in a quite bungalow in surrey and couldn't be happier, move now to save your sanity, no amount of money can compare to being happy in your own home.

joopie · 07/09/2007 21:39

also felt dread at the thought of going home, it would take all my willpower not to cry on the train home at night.

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Tottie32 · 07/09/2007 21:40

i know i dont want to waste one more moment of my life here

my family have put lots of work into my house which is the only thing holding me back?????

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BaggieBird · 07/09/2007 21:41

We are going to be renting off a family member so have avoided all the formalities.

We were going to rent privatly and I spoke to many people about it. We don't earn much and would have been claiming HB. We would have paid a max of £423 pcm and HB would have made up the difference. I spoke to the estate agents and they said most landlords were fine with it because they were guarenteed payment, they were just weary off DSS because of the stigma attached.

My council rent is £240ish a month, private is around £550 round here but the HB helps alot.

I know we are going to struggle to pay the rent and the extra living costs but when you hate going home something needs to be done.

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Tottie32 · 07/09/2007 21:47

thanks for that baggiebird... i agree with you i would happily lose all luxuries to get out if i have to pay more....

bit worried about my family after all they have done for me in house....

i hope you are happy in your new place

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OriginalUglyBetty · 07/09/2007 21:48

If you are happy in your current home appart from the antisocial behaviour there is some new legislation out soon that will help tackle this issue, depending on the nuisence being caused.

Are there no other social housing providers in your area?

If you are claiming HB and want to go into private rental you can approach the local council and they will do a pre tenancy determination which will tell you how much of the rental will be eligible for HB and how much you would need to pay.

BaggieBird · 07/09/2007 21:51

I'm sure your family will understand if they know how unhappy you are.
Once you have made the decision its like a huge weight has been lifted. Don't forget you have to give the council 4 weeks notice.
Good luck, do whats right for YOU.

mabelmurple · 07/09/2007 21:53

I'm sure your family will think your peace of mind is more important than any work they've done in your house. Life is too short to hate your own home.

OriginalUglyBetty · 07/09/2007 21:55

Second that, im sure they would prefer you to be happy

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Tottie32 · 07/09/2007 21:56

yes i know it is so much more important, we just plan anything to not be here....

my dad sent me away last year so he could do a weeks worth of hard work in my house without us being in his way so he sent us on hols!!

i would hope he would understand

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BaggieBird · 07/09/2007 22:01

Talk to your dad about whats going on, see if he suggests you look for a new place

Howdydoody · 07/09/2007 22:08

If your dad is lovely enough to send you on hols so he can do work on your place he sounds lovely enough to understand your problem.

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