Just some advice (short and sweet)

[lostguy92]

Met a lady in november 2019, we broke up jan 2020 due to insecurities.. we havent stopped talking and meeting since.. she stopped me being around her and her daughter due to not wanting to confuse the little one (which is fine) but since then we have been away on a 3 night break with her daughter, and i can now spend time with them again.. but when ever i ask if we can take the next step...start seeing eachother or be official again she says dont ruin it , or she says " this is what i cant deal with" ? i want her,, why does she not want to be official?... thanks guys and gals

She's just not that in to you. I'd cut my losses.

You’re useful and comforting and will do ok for now until she meets someone she falls for.

And she’ll tell her friends how she was honest with you all along and you just didn’t get it and how clingy you were.

Move on OP - protect yourself from this headfuck of a situation. No good will come of it.

I'm sorry but she's leading you on. She likes the attention but doesn't want you. Find someone who does and appreciates you for been you x

18 weeks in and you have already met her DD and want to be 'official again'

It would be a no from me first time around, she doesn't want to have to be labelled I reckon.

Why not just take it slowly? She has a child to consider as well as you you. She doesn't need two children. FFS.

All seems a bit quick and intense.
She shouldn't be having you around her child if she doesn't want to move forward with you.
All seems very odd.

Sorry OP but she's stringing you along. It will all stop though when she meets someone else and casts you aside. You'll be hurt and she won't care because "she's been honest with you."

Sounds pretty straightforward to me - she is not ready and doesn’t want to be in a relationship

She's not ready at best, at worst (and way more likely by the sounds of it) she's a manipulator. 3 night break with her daughter and you aren't even in a relationship? she's really only thinking about what she wants, and not you or even her daughter.

She's toxic, she's stringing you along, and so much drama and headfeck so early on should have you running for the hills. Might be worth asking yourself why you aren't - why are you prepared to put up with this? No-one is THAT special. But those who hook into our inner wounding can feel like they are.

Did you, by any chance, pay for the 3 night break?

She may be using you. At best, she's not making you happy, so why bother?