Wrack your brains please

[Happymum2020]

Hi all

DH and I both work and are very lucky to basically alternate short & long working days to do nursery & school runs (DD2 & DS5).

But we’re really struggling after the kids go to bed, we just don’t know what to do together. Bored of boxsets, where I overeat & DH necks a bottle of wine and both doze off. Mumsnetters, what can we do together instead? Obviously housebound and lacking in energy... we have an hour or two to spare most evenings.

Dirty minds will immediately go to bedroom activities but something other than that!

Thanks guys!

What bought you together? Do you have any shared interest? Do you talk to each other?

Dancing, board games, reading, talking, watching a movie, cooking, knitting, ...

I have been single for four years but oh my if I had adult company when kids go to bed, my last problem would be not knowing what to Dom enjoy each other's company!

Maybe each of you have one evening outside the house when you go to the gym or do a hobby. One night can be a board game/card game night. Maybe take up doing a short hiit session 5 nights a week together (joe wicks is good). And one night each of you can cook a new dish that you both choose

Is your relationship suffering from it? Do you talk to eachother? Do you have to do something together?

@PanicAndRun I think we’re probably suffering individually(?)

@lolailo we used to go to the local pubs, restaurants, cinema, but by far our best date nights were, ironically, snuggled on the sofa with a glass of wine and a box set! Too much of a good thing I guess!

@Musti definitely a great idea to go out separately, maybe then we’d re-appreciate what we have.

Thank you!

Read a book to each other taking alternate pages or chapters. Play cards, lots of different games out there. Play chess or draughts, or board games. Put your imagination in gear and speculate together where you would go on holiday if you won the lottery. Do 20 minutes house work together to free up time for weekends. Have a pillow fight. Try laughing yoga, you don't have to tie yourself in knots. There must be other things but I can't think of them at this time of night

Backgammon. By far the best thing I've enjoyed with partners. Every game is different.

You can have an evening at home, in ute friends over for a time you know kids will be sleeping. Play cards together or other board games

Board games, cards. Decluttering. Baking. X

DH and I do jigsaws. Boring maybe, but we really enjoy them.

We’ve done jigsaws, origami and watercolour painting. We recently bought a PS4 and are completing the old spyro games! Also if one of us picks a crossword book up the other joins in. We have baths together some nights and give each other massages. We are 27 and 30