I'm 35 and he is 28...

[WomanInTheWindow]

I have not had a serious relationship for a while.

At the moment we are still getting to know each other. He says it does not matter to him.

But I know it is not the 'norm'. None of my friends know about us yet.

What do you guys think?

Absolutely fine! Enjoy!!

What's the problem? My friend is 50, and her husband is 38. They have been married for 10 years. Some people know about the age gap, some don't, but nobody cares (in a nice way).

Exactly same age gap as me and my ex. It was never an issue. (Other than him struggling to be step parent to teens. Hence the break up. )

When DH and I got together he was 25 and I was 32.

15 years, 2 kids, a wedding and various house moves later we are still besotted.

Not. A. Problem. Go for it 🥰🥰

I was 41 when I met dh.
He was 31.
Married nearly 5 years with a dc..

When I met my partner I was 31 and he was 19! 5 years later we are still together. I have 3 dd's from a previous relationship and he is closer to them in age! Don't get me wrong a few people had something to say about it but it never bothered him...just me! I'm over it now and we couldn't be happier. He isn't a typical 24 year old tho, he has his own business and we are in the process of buying our first house. Age really is just a number and as long as you are happy it really doesn't matter! Just enjoy it!

He was 18 and I was 25 coming out of a abusive relationship. That was 34 years ago, still together with 4 grown up kids. Go for it and tell any one who sticks their nose in to bugger off.

It’s only seven years.

It's fine. With respect you're acting like you have to reveal to your friends that you're shacking up with an 85 year old. A 7 year age gap is nothing.

Wouldn't give it a second thought.

I was 36, he was 27. That was 8 years ago. Married and 3 kids. Age difference has never been an issue

It's fine relax! If you were the man and he was the woman you wouldn't bat an eye lid I bet. You're over thinking it. Enjoy getting to know each other and see where it goes

Yeah, don't see the problem

I'm 40 and DP is 34. It's not an issue at all. If anything DP acts like an old man half the time...

I think 'stage of life' matters more than the numerical age, assuming everyone's an adult.

No big deal, this one.

I'm 58. My husband of eighteen years is 47. As in every relationship we have our ups and downs, none of them due to the age difference.

When I was 39 I met a guy I liked, in a darkish pub. Being a bit of an idiot I lied and said I was only 29. He said he was 29 too.

Eventually took him home and had awesome sex only to wake up the next morning and realise that in the light of day with no make up, I probably couldn’t get away with being 29. So I said “er.... I lied about my age” to which he replied “so did I”

Fab, thinks I. He’s older than me. But no, I’d gone from 39 to 29 he’d gone from 19 to 29. He was younger than my eldest child. But he was fun. Just enjoy your time together. It’s not a huge difference.

My current guy is 41 and I’m 48...doesn’t bother either of us

I got together with DH when he was 23 and I was 28. We've been together 17 years now, married with 2 children. I've never noticed the age gap and nor has he. I just don't even think about it. We look the same age and mentally are equal. You're both adults. It's not like you're 30 years older than him. I'd go for it!

Do not worry about what people might think for one second!

Same for me - was feeling particularly embarrassed when I met his family and then a few years later realised it was exactly the same as his mum and dad!

10 years down the line and 2 kids later!

No one batted an eyelid when I (26, man) got together with my ex (36, woman). We lasted ten years and the split was amicable but honestly we should have called it a day three or four years earlier. The gap did become an issue - no kids involved, thankfully - in the sense that not long after she hit 40 she didn't want to do stuff much any more. "Been there, done that" sort of attitude and wanted to spend more time sitting at home in the garden. I wasn't a party guy by any means, but I wasn't ready to "retire".

I have a female friend who is approaching 50 and since her marriage broke up 15 years ago has only dated guys 10-15 years younger. Every one has been a disaster.

So, I'm saying go for it as there is nothing certain in life and relationships; what works for some doesn't work for others. It's no one else's business.

Only issue I could think of is if you’re wanting children and feeling that (for age related reasons) you would want it to be soonish and he is not in the same page. But he is 28 not a baby so that’s less an “age” thing than a general compatibility thing which could happen with any age of bloke/woman.

What? 7 years?! There’s 6.5 between me and DH and we were childhood best friends. Not sure why you’re concerned....

Im 51 and my fella is 45 cant see the issue.

We dated for 3 years 27 years ago, he was 17 and i was 23