Boyfriend pulling away advice

[Sashwills17]

So me and my bf have been dating for about a month, he’s been really keen and seen each other a lot.
I suggested we do something and he was keen and then on the day he bailed on me saying he wanted space and that he was grumpy.
He is working nights and it was his only night off so I get it wasn’t annoyed just sad because I wanted to see him but I respect he wants space.
Anyway ever since he’s been a bit distant with me on text, not as chatty or his usual self. He seems ok in person as I have seen him in passing but he just seems to have pulled off a little bit.
Is this normal? And how should I handle it? He’s still messaging me and that just not as chatty.
Probably sounds stupid but I really don’t want to mess it up by being needy, but at the same time I kinda want some reassurance.
Any advice appreciated 😊

1. If you feel someone pulling away from a romantic relationship, let them go! Move on.

1. I agree that he isn’t that into you. Loads of men are like this: it’s why you have to keep your wits about you and not plunge headlong into a relationship with somebody you hardly know.

For some men, they meet somebody and they are all in, immediately. This is the ‘swept off your feet’ thing. Then they realise that you don’t match up to their ideal wish list of female attributes and go off you quickly. Don’t waste time trying to win back somebody like this.

If you like this person it's got to be worth a chat. If they run for the hills, then it wasn't right.

He's not your boyfriend after a month
You're two people who are dating. You barely know each other. Either of you could decide that it's not for you, and there's nothing anyone can do about that.
Take it slower next time (and this time in fact)

Don't waste any more time on this guy if it's giving you anxiety OP, he just doesn't sound that into it/you. Nothing much you can do but move on. Hopefully you'll meet the right person who won't have you second guessing or analysing everything

After a month and he already sounds like he is having doubts, I would be walking away and not wasting anymore time

One month of dating is not bf/gf status, surely?

Anyway, it’s not needy to want what you want. That is your right. He may not be able to provide it, and that is his right. You just have to see how things go OP. Don’t run around after him or give it too much headspace. If you are good together then together you’ll get over this blip, if not - well, it’s only a month’s investment you’re saying goodbye to!

He's probably realising he has one night a week free and the novelty of making the effort with a girlfriend on that night has worn off. You're reading his signals right, which is positive. He wants to back away... Let him.

Sadly if he’s backing away there is nothing at all you can do. If he really wants to spend time with you he will make the effort to see you, if he was really keen he would not be missing opportunities to spend time with you. Maybe he has just changed his mind - which he has a right to do. Just back away yourself and see what happens, though be prepared for it to fade away.

Sorry, OP but it looks as though he has just gone off you.

A month is nothing. Perhaps he's realised he's not that into you, or perhaps he is but he's finding you a bit needy and full on and wants to slow things down a bit. My guess is it's the first.

The only way to find out is to give him the space he's asking for. Don't keep texting him to see how he is or how he's feeling - just go radio silence. Within a week or so you'll have your answer.

I agree with previous posters to mirror his activity, because I didn't and ended up feeling foolish and anxious. It's a horrible feeling when they don't contact you or don't seem bothered about meeting, especially when things seem to start well.

She needs to disconnect. Sod the ‘mirroring’: more mental load for the OP! If she’s going to move on, she needs to get away from wondering what he thinks about her behaviour.

He's not your boyfriend; you've been 'dating' for a month.

Find someone better to date.

I agree with you all, we’ve known each other a year prior to this and have always had a flirty relationship but this time he said he wanted to try with me and make an effort.. as to which he did. Now he’s just gone like this. I’m just confused but I think it’s time I put my self worth first.

He's not your boyfriend and he's not worth your time. He is making it very clear as to who he really is. Raise the bar and get rid.

... he wanted to try with me and make an effort...

Be still my beating heart! The romance!

Honestly OP, move on. You can do so much better.