Partner watched porn after we had sex

[KrustyTheKat]

So I caught my partner watching porn after we had sex. It was literally 10 minutes afterwards. I confronted him and he said that he just feels like watching porn after sex. I asked if he was unsatisfied, he said no. I explained how that made me feel like I’m not enough for him. I don’t think he gets it.

I agree that watching it in bed immediately after sex is a bit odd and frankly stupid on his part. But I sometimes watch porn later in the day if we have had sex in the morning. It doesn't mean I wasn't satisfied by my DW, a guy using porn does not mean he is unhappy with his DP. I think you are right to call him out on this but at the same time if you are happy with your relationship in other respects, including your sex life, then I would not see it as a deal breaker.

I'd hate it. My bf and I often have sex more than once if he was still being after sex I'd want him to be open with me. And he says it's a habit. So he's been doing it a long time without you knowing.

ffs I'd assumed you were a man. So you are a woman who has sex and orgasms with her partner. And then watch porn and make yourself cum straight after. Where is your partner?

Women need to stop associating porn with ‘not being enough’ or ‘not satisfying’ your partner or ‘not being attractive to him’.

Porn has literally nothing to do with any of those things in a man’s mind, women have invented that ludicrous thought process.

@Dingleberryrose you took the words right out of my mouth

My mates do joke that I am male, not just because of this either haha.

I've taken myself off to another room if I wanted to watch porn and he wasn't interested in watching. It would be a phrased in a way to not cause offence. Sometimes I've stayed where I am and he's going about doing whatever it is he needs to do. Then there's been times when he's gone to sleep. So many ways of having some extra whilst remaining discreet. I erm don't have a partner, and just watched it regardless at times, if I'm really honest. The ones I want to see again, well I deal with it tactfully.

It can be a pita. When I worked for people in the past, I would deliberately go for local places. Everyone thought it was because of transport etc. Reality it was so I could come home at lunchtime.

One of the things I was looking forward to, but dreading, was the drive slowing down after I had my hysterectomy. Not a fucking chance. And the recovery from that was a nightmare to get through because of the drive.

It's a shit situation from both sides of it.

It's odd and I have no answer for you, but be sure of one thing op, it is not about you. Whatever the issue is, it's him.

OP, it doesn't have to mean he's dissatisfied.

DH makes me very happy in that respect. In fact, I enjoy it so much that I don't want it to end. Inevitably it does, and that's enough for him. I'd ideally go again and straight away, but he can't or doesn't feel the urge. I don't say anything, as it could leave him thinking I was unsatisfied, whereas actually, it was so great that I want more.

I also "come down" from sex quite slowly. I can sort of still feel it for a long time after, which makes arousal linger. I don't watch porn as it's not my thing, but sometimes after sex, DH goes to sleep and I read something smutty.

If it's the porn you object to, that's a separate issue, but if it's the timing, I wouldn't assume it means anything bad at all.

I appreciate that plenty of people on here have no issue with porn however in real life away from mumsnet plenty fond use of it in relationships not ok and offensive. It isn’t always either to do with not being good enough or poor self esteem- it can simply trigger the ick factor for many women. It’s absolutely your right to crack on with it but dont Be suprised If your partner goes off you/ sex , may be illogical but attraction/ libido is a funny thing.

I have on occasion watched porn shortly after sex. This is normally due to not being fully satisfied and my DW not wanting to go again.