Really childish, I’m in the process of planning split from my bf, he’s apparently lied to me loads and I keep believing his defences . I am never able to prove that he’s lied and we go over and over the same ground.
We haven’t split yet because I don’t know how/what to say that doesn’t result in hours of pointless arguing as has happened before.
This time a friend has innocuously sent me irrefutable proof that he’s lied, It’s not even a biggie but just a pointless one, he’s presumably done it to ‘protect’ us as it’s a lie based on contact with an ex, and a place they’d been. it’s pretty harmless on the face of it but we’d had a discussion about a place very recently and he said he had no knowledge of this place but my friend has sent me ‘proof’ that he has very recent knowledge of it.
All his lies seem to be rooted in not knowing how to tell me something or ‘i didn’t think it was important’ but it always turns out to be very important, mainly because of the omission in the first place and mainly because it’s linked to contact with exes of which he has several recent exes with whom he’s still in regular contact with.
It’s always about things that have happened and passed and then I get upset and then it’s minimised by him and I feel a fool and I have to let it go...
I have been thinking all weekend of ending things and this kind of gives me the perfect ‘out’ but also feels a bit childish and it isn’t the real reason I’m thinking of splitting but very much linked to it (lying and misleading...)