Anyone able to talk

[stargazer22]

Iv just had to leave my house and go for a drive . My boyfriend of 9 years has bipolar so living with his mood swings are so hard but today he hasn't had any work and I find that's when he is unbearable to be around . We have been great the last few weeks and I have felt so happy and then today has been a nightmare . We are trying for a baby buying a house this year and all of a sudden an hour ago he says he's leaving and doesn't want to be with me no more . I'm
Sat there crying my eyes out and he doesn't even care . I'd never do that to anyone . He then divides to stay and is nice for 5 mins then back horrible so I have just left in the car and parked up . I don't want to go home at all but got work in 4 hours . I just feel so sad . Anyone able to give to give some advice please x

Oh no so sorry to hear. This is a difficult situation. Have you got anywhere you could go stay? So you have some rest for work? Has he tried getting in contact. Stay safe x

The only advice I can give is going to sound harsh. Love does not, and cannot, conquer all.
He may be a wonderful man but he sounds unbearable to live with. What about your happiness?

Having a mental health condition doesn't justify treating someone like shit. Ever.

Can you find a cheap hotel or beg a sofa from a friend/family for the night? Don't go home if he's still going to be this unpredictable. Is there a chance he's not taking his medication?

Thankyou for replying . I could go to my parents but don't want to wake them up . Hopefully if I go back he's sleeping because he has been downing whisky most of the night . And alcohol makes his moods worse . Iv blocked him on what's app because if he did try to get in contact with me it would probably only be abuse . I think I'm going to just sit here and think for another 15 minutes and then go home . I feel like it's for the best if we do finish but at the same time I get so sad and scared when I think of him really leaving . X

Any kids?

Don't do this to yourself.

You'll be living in fear always. Has he taken steps to manage his bipolarity? If not, then it doesn't sound sensible to drag yourself through this for another 9 years.

You're parents won't mind you waking them.

I'm only now seeing all the other replies . The best thing is he has not gone back for a follow up appointment and that was 5 yet as ago so he has been on no medication at all so you can imagine what he's like . Also I know when to leave because he has a habit once he's had a drink of totally losing it and kind of smashing things . I think he was close to that point tonight x

He sounds cruel. Not a trait I'd want in a partner. I'm sorry, but this would be more than enough to make me leave.

There is no reasoning with someone who is self medicating and not engaging with MH services. This really isn't someone to be shackling yourself to for life, seriously.

Get out while you can. Go to your parents, if he's been drinking you need to stay safe.

Please consider waking your parents up. I would not want my DD to ever not come to me if she needed me.

Please do not have a baby or tie yourself to a house with him.
MH conditions and alcohol are not a good combination, I grew up with a mother like this and it doesn’t get better, I’m 15 years NC.
End this before you’re tied to him, it’s not your job to save him.

Is there a reason to why he has been downing whiskey? Really if alcohol is a trigger he should keep away from it. Especially when his moods are taken out on you. I would take this as a sign. Leave him you shouldn't be out at this hour worrying and upset no one deserves that xxxx

Leave, leave, leave. Why are you considering buying a house and trying for a child with this man?
You say he has a diagnosed MH condition, yet he thinks there is nothing wrong (otherwise she would go to his appt and carry on his meds).
He has a drinking problem and anger issues.
He smashes up the house.
Read 'living with the dominator' by Pat Craven.
Read these responses and imagine if it were a friend telling you this and the advice you would give them.
Xx

Oh please, please do leave him. He is a danger to you and absolutely to any future babies you may have with him. Imagine him losing and smashing stuff up with your little baby or toddler there?

I'm sorry he's unwell but this would make me seriously reconsider buying a house, and take starting a family anytime soon off the table for me. However torn you feel now, throw in a house and a child and it will be 100 times worse. Sorry you're going through this.