Does it ever work? My DH and I are likely to split if we carry on as we are so I wonder if we should give it a try. We are only really together for our kids it seems. But we have had a really hard couple of years. I lost a parent a year ago plus 18 months ago we moved area and both of us took new jobs. We did it because it would be a really good move for him but he doesn't like his new job after all. I have had to go full time for the last six months (the part time maternity leave cover I was doing finished and the only position I could take was full time). So there is all sorts of extra strain on our relationship. On top of that I have been having a few physical health issues of late which are getting me down as I am not able to be as active as I would like, as well as suffering from anxiety. He is bearing the brunt of me being unable to remember stuff and constantly staying I will do things and then forgetting. I even offer to make a cup of tea and forget by the time the kettle has boiled. I burn food, forget when the kids activities aren't running (wasting time and effort getting them there to find out they aren't on). Added to this my husband is an only child so not very good at compromise. I have wondered at times if he is emotionally abusive but Then I think how justified he is to get frustrated with me forgetting stuff and letting him down time after time and then I feel slightly ashamed. I think he is slightly on the spectrum and can be a shit selfish person from time to time. But I avoided ever going for counselling as I read that it's no use if one partner is abusive as they work it to their advantage. I am terrible at any kind of criticism- this is true at work as well as at home but it's easy to be emotional at home and blame it all on a partner bejng abusive but in my heart of hearts I know he is justified in getting frustrated with me as I am just so unreliable. So after that big rant- do you think we should go to couples counselling (if we were to ever find the time)?