I've been seeing a guy for 2.5 years.
There are many positives but there is one thing I struggle with and I'm not sure if we have a way forward.
He can be quite self centred at times. He has admitted this and is trying not to be as doesn't always realise until I point it out.
He isn't always able to respond very well when I'm having a hard time sometimes in life. Usual stuff as a single parent, recent bereavement etc So when I'm anything but happy, he struggles how to respond and starts talking about himself, dismisses it or starts talking about a friend he's worried about. When I'm like, what about me? Please support me.
I've spoken about this to him many times and it isn't getting better. He means well, he just doesn't know what to do.
But he does like to offload on me when he's got stuff.
I'm finding that I'm switching off when he does this as I get nothing back. I feel so sad that its not recipocated .Again, I've talked to him about this but he doesn't understand as he says he's trying and I need to be more clear. Which upsets me as I've don't know how more clear I can be. It's putting it back on me like it's my fault.
Other areas we get on so well so it's really hard to end it.
But I feel disconnecting. I have lovely friends so I don't offload massively. It's when life is hard, I would like him to be interested in my feelings like a boyf would.
The bereavement hit me hard last year. He offered an ear to talk about it. I wasn't sure if it was a good idea as I know what he's like but I wanted to give it a chance as it was straight after the funeral. He asked a few questions and then started talking about something else.
I felt worse.
Don't really know what answers to get on here as I know in my gut what to do but I hope it will change/get better.