Oh shit...he has a six pack

[Pandamoore]

So I right swiped a guy on dating ap and we matched and got talking. He's asked me out on a date date. And THEN I notice: he has a friggin 6 pack.

Sat there just polished off a chippy like, oh.fuck.
(I feel a gym montage coming on xD)

I mean I am not a gym bunny and could do with losing half a stone tbh. I dunno if I'm balzy enough to go on this date haha. ...actually, yeah i am. But I probably shouldnt lol.

Anyone else gone on a date with someone they worried might take one look at them and scarper?

I guess it's just a date and it probably wouldn't go anywhere anyway but its been a while since I've dated so...would just be nice if it was nice you know.

I had a boyfriend with A Body in my fat-youth.

Now that I am in my fat-middle age I like to think of all the licking I did on his body.

Was nice at the time

Half a stone over weight is my dream weight ha. Go for it.

Thanks all :)

I agree with posters who say it might be wise to avoid men with torso pics on dating apps. But he had quite a few pics and wasnt leading with that one and seemed pleasant enough so I may take the chance :)

Plus i haven't met him yet so dont know what I want from him yet either lol ;) Have decided to go into things on a case by case basis.

Posting an abs pic is a bit cringe

However , if you like him go for it!! Does not matter one bit .... my DH was incredibly fit and toned when I met him. Gorgeous. I, well let's say the gym is Not My Friend.

Been together 18 years, 3 kids. Its what's inside that counts and I bet you're lovely

Most really attractive men I know stopped caring about looks when they started looking for a serious relationship. Few people a stupid enough to think that having an ideal body is going to add to the relationship or last long term.

Lots of fit guys like a woman with something they can hold on to and jiggle about. Have another chippy lol

I am married to a fitness nut who still has a great body. I have put on weight over the years since we met from a size 10 to a size 16, but he still fancies me.

"Lots of men have six packs, they don't need to be obsessive about the gym, just be reasonably fit and be a normal healthy weight."

You are seriously underestimating how hard it is for a man to have a six pack. But OP hasn't actually met him in person and only seen his profile picture? Ha, who knows how old those pictures are.

Just came here to give you a high five! He's worked on that 6 pack to get a date - don't let it put you off one! Enjoy.

He's actually been a bit dickish with the odd reply now so I think I'll pass haha. But am totally right swiping a few cuties that I wouldn't normally feel brave enough to now. Life is short after all.

What has he said to put you off? Just curious?
I’m the same with old, although 2 stone over my ideal. I get so nervous that they are going to take one look and leave.

Just a couple of things where I thought 'I wouldn't say that to someone unless they were a close mate I knew I could joke with like that' like a little bit of 'negging' you know. And I'm just not cool with that. Also talking about other girls a little. So yeah...nope lol.

Ha your update totally doesn't surprise me!

Can't stand the buff types. Bleurgh.

Well good to find out early then. Honestly the amount of assholes you have to wade through are unreal. I can definitely pick them!

Ugh, knob. That's why he needs a six pack to get a shag (and it's not even working).

xD the sad thing is that in comparison to others he hasn't been that bad. But still, it's just not good enough.

Better to find out now than on the date!

Ah this thread has put my mind at ease a bit. I fancy my super hot gym instructor and get the feeling he kind of likes me but I always think what would he see in me a slightly overweight woman the wrong side of 40 when he can have his pick of hot younger women(as a pt he probably has lots of offers too). I look at him and think I'm living in cloud cuckoo land thinking he would be interested in me and keep putting off asking him for a drink.

My guy is a bodybuilder and I'm a size 16 who is proud of myself if I walk to Tesco instead of doing the 2 minute drive. There's someone for everyone.

I can't understand why you feel bad because he has a 6 pack and you ate a chippy? I've never seen anyone eat the way my bf does, he shovels it away. Works it off because he genuinely enjoys the gym boggles my mind but there you go .He likes that I enjoy my food too. Go on the date, eat nice food, enjoy each others company and see what comes if it.

He is probably stressing about things he isnt sure about in his body as much as you are.
Been confident- he obviously likes what he sees ( assuming that your profile pic isn't totally different to what you look like now)