Boyfriend going to Prague on stag do

[Newmoondancer]

Ok first of all, I say boyfriend (cringe) but don’t know what else to call us as we are both late 40’s.

Have been seeing him for about 6 months. Previously was married (divorced) so had been in my own for about 3 years as I didn’t want to get into dating too soon as I knew I needed to work on myself as I have extremely low self esteem which I’m afraid is still there. Split up from ex husband because he cheated on me.

Now BF is going to Prague on a stag do, I was fine with this, he hasn’t given me my reason to think he would cheat however, one of my work colleagues has said people go to Prague to cheat and it’s more than likely he will end up having sex with someone over there as “that’s the done thing” and he will end up with someone younger than me for the weekend as loads of women throw themselves at men when they visit the city or he will visit a brothel????? Of course it doesn’t take much for my self esteem to hit the bottom.

I haven’t said anything to my boyfriend about this, I feel I can’t, it’s not my place.

Is this the sort of thing that happens on stag dos now??? Is prague really like this?

I’m sorry if I seem really naive but I was married for 20 years and ex was my first boyfriend so I’m not really experienced in all this!!

Your colleague is talking shite.

I’d just talk to him about it

I tho k that's someone talking from their own bitter experience. It's just a city.

Never heard anything like that ever. My OH has been to many stags abroad and it's not some sex fest with woman throwing themselves at them!

It happens on some stag dos, whether in Prague or elsewhere. Best to just talk to him.

Thank you it’s just how I bring it up with him, I don’t want to seem needy or paranoid. I told my friend and she said to ignore her but well the doubts are there now and all the rubbish about everyone else is better than me so he will find someone else who is prettier and younger etc. Thought I was doing well in working on myself.....obviously not!

Honestly if he wants to cheat he will cheat, whether he is in Prague or Southampton. At some point you just have to decide whether you trust him or not. I know if I went away and had men throw themselves at me (haha), I'd not be tempted at all and would not cheat. I know other women who routinely cheat. Are there warning signs? Red flags? If not, hopefully it will be fine!

Your colleague is being ridiculous.

Your colleague is a asshole and a wind up merchant! If some is going to cheat it's as done a thing to do it in their hometown as it is in Prague. If someone is going to be faithful it's as easy in Prague as it is at home.

Has this colleague never made you think "what a horrible person you are" before? It seems like a very deliberately nasty thing to say to someone.

Id say some men do this but not all.

Id ask him why the groom chose prague.

What is your general feeling. Does he respect women?

Mine is going to Prague in the summer for a stag do. I know for a fact he won't go to strip bars, they will drink stupid amounts and regret it because they're in 30s now, but they're decent guys and I trust him. I've seen a group chat where the BM specified strip bars are not in the plan and if people want to go, fine, but the groom and BM won't and I know DP won't either because he respects women and respects me.

Oh he's talking rubbish, this colleague. He can speak for himself!
Both of my brothers went on stag dos and neither one of them cheated. My brother lived in Prague while his fiance was living in New York. They've been married 18 years now, so that all worked out.
I know, Prague's got the whole 'It's full of hot Czech chicks' reputation and all the guys going out there on stag dos are after one thing, but that is such an inflated, exaggeration of reality.
Your colleague sounds horribly mean, as if he's enjoying tormenting you. Really, don't even sweat it. You should go to Prague with your BF one day. It's an amazing and beautiful city!

Leave him until you work out your trust issues. If you don't trust him, it'll get messy and painful for you both, whether he cheats or not.

Sorry, probably not what you want to hear.

I think your colleague is jumping to not very nice conclusions. It doesn’t sound like they’ve a very high opinion of men. I assume that they either cheat themselves or they been cheated on in the past.

My husband has been to Prague before we met and yes told me that he could have had sex with someone very easily out there if he’d wanted to do anything other than sightseeing and having a good time with friends. Is it possible that you could be projecting your XH behaviour onto your new boyfriend?

It doesn’t really matter where the stag/hen is if a person wants to cheat on their partner then they will do it. You say your boyfriend hasn’t given you a reason to think he would cheat. Personally I think that if he’s a good man and you’ve had the conversation about exclusivity then you’ve no need to worry. You weren’t worried at all until this colleague put ideas into your head. Perhaps give them a wide berth in future!

Even if there are women there throwing themselves at him (which I doubt, it's a city like any other), does that automatically mean he'll take advantage?
He has self control and if he respects you he won't do it.

My friend did this when I was engaged and my OH was going on a stag. She said well obviously he'll have sex with prostitutes and I was like, huh? We literally just got engaged and you're saying this is a definite.

She made out I was v naive about things and they all do it.

I was v upset and spoke to OH he was like WTF .

Anyway turns out her ex had done it a lot before they got together and I suppose saying it's normal and they all do it makes you not need to think on it or make difficult decisions.

I am baffled by the idea that all men pay for sex. Men come in all sorts of personalities and yes they do get a pack thing going on and exploiting women esp abroad is normalised. But no of course it's not a given. Plenty of men don't want to fuck women they know don't want to fuck them. Because it's just grim.

You said you didn't have a problem with it before and you trusted him before your colleague was being malicious.I wouldo try my best to continue as before and try to block out what she said.

Sounds like your colleague is jealous. Don't listen to her.

I’m in my late 40s OP as is my DH and my experience tells me from going out and about that hot people are not throwing themselves at me. I imagine hot Czech women are probably aiming for guys a little younger - unless your BF is exceptionally good looking or rich. It’s not about the place he’s in it’s about the person he is.

Sounds like you're colleague is seriously jealous and trying to wind you up. Nasty person. I'd give her a wide berth.

TBH I'd pack him off with some condoms and tell him if he can't be good be careful. I am a bit odd but just can't get too excited by ONS or strip clubs.

As a male in my early 40s i must say, unfortunately your colleague is correct. I couldn't walk down the street for attractive young woman jumping on me wanting sex. Just buying a train ticket i was blackmailed to have sex with three young attractive train company staff. Only happens in Prague, made a vow to never go again

I think the problem is your colleague. Sounds like shes out to cause drama.

If your bf wants to cheat he’ll cheat. He doesn’t need to go to Prague to do it.

My DH got taken to Amsterdam for his stag, I wasn’t worried he would cheat.