I posted recently about how scared me and kids were of my H. They confronted him and now the 5 year at least affair is out in the open. My H has come up with a barrage of justifications including all my alleged affairs. He's a master manipulator. I have been to see a couple the H of whom he says I slept with 20 odd years ago. They are angry and told me the real reason our families fell out back then was his verbal abuse of their daughter. I can't afford to leave. H is acting like nothings happened. He's in the only available bed. Somehow I'm on the sofa. He doesn't see how grossly unfair this is and also has not been to OW who is apparently expecting him to move in. I'm not so scared of violence now but I feel so ill.