Am I being odd? - friendship

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I've recently made friends with a woman whose son is at the same school and rugby club as mine. To start with we just chatted/text regarding lifts to and from the club and about the boys meeting up etc. Recently we have become more friendly and spend more time together having coffee/wine at the weekends etc. Both our DHs work long hours so it works and we get on really well and enjoy each other's company. I'm really happy to have such a nice new friend but I'm finding myself thinking about her a lot like things I see or do during the day I think I must tell her this later and I look forward to meeting up/chatting on the phone etc like I want the daily contact with her. Is this strange?

No? I don't have friends like that, but I think other people do. I think it's normal and nice!

Sounds nice op.

Yes it is but I mean I am thinking about her a lot and thinking ahead to the next time we will speak/meet up, is that not odd?!

I think you're over- thinking it. She's just become your very good friend and probably the main person you have to tell things to, so it's natural to think about her a bit when you're not with her and think of things you want to tell her about. Don't worry and just enjoy the friendship x

I don't think it's odd. it's the excitement of a new relationship.

That sounds like friendship to me...

There are times though when you really click with people so it could be that but there are also times when the other friendships haven’t been as good so someone new offers real excitement.

Not at all weird. Sounds like a lovely friendship you've got there!

What are you worried about OP? That you might have a bit of a crush on her? I think sometimes a marriage or life stagnates and then when someone super fun or interesting comes along it all gets exciting again. I don't think it's something to worry about although an insecure husband may tell you it is. Just enjoy the vibrancy of having a good friend. Unless you do want to lick her face, in which case this is a totally different conversation...

Ha ha, no crush! I don't know what I'm concerned about really and my Dh is pleased for me having a new friend. Need to stop over thinking it then!

Sounds really nice op.
She sounds a lovely friend I would enjoy!!
Everyone needs good friends, I think it's great 💐

It sounds fine. Just make sure there is a 'to and fro' that is roughly equally balanced between you contacting her or suggesting things and her doing so. And don't overthink it if it goes a few days or more without contact - that's just healthy space, and might happen after the first phase.

It's chemistry and it can be non sexual. I've met other women in my life as friends and they're so vibrant and fun to be with, and they're drawn to you too. It's great when chemistry happens with someone, be it in a flirty sexual way or not, enjoy your new friend!

Totally natural, OP. Sounds like you might just be out of practice. And I suppose the start of any new friendship/relationship might have a heady and exciting feel to it.
Relax and enjoy

But try not to go in to hard and risk her thinking you’re a bit over eager! I can be a bit like this sometimes

It’s normal. I’m like it with my bestie and she with me. It’s nice.

Sometimes when I've felt like that it's tipped over into a bit of an infatuation. But it's also nice to have a new friend that you click with and you aren't me!