Am I right to be concerned about a possible rekindle

[Pissedoff888]

Hi I have been with dp for 2 years and we have twins at 3 months they were obviously a surprise.

I really love him but am still v scarred from my ex cheating. My dp works for a big corporation in a small team and sometimes people will come into their team to train for a few months. A girl that works in the corporation is joining and it’s a girl he slept with before me. I always had a feeling they might have as we met her on a night out on one of our first dates and dp couldn’t get away from her quick enough. How do I handle this?

He told me tonight and we had an argument. He got quite nasty with me and said that I am making him unhappy and how he dreads coming home. There was no reassurance nothing would happen. I feel so crap things have been v stressful and this is just the icing on the cake.

I think the fact that he came to you and told you is positive. You’re probably both frazzled from the new twins (congratulations) and not being your best selves hence the blow up. You’ll get through this.

He knows I would have found out so I think that’s why he told me. It’s gonna be a long 3 months

You keep pushing and you can almost make it a self fulfilling prophecy. He's told you, he can't do anything about working with her. Why don't you focus more on why he's said he's unhappy to come home rather than accusing him of cheating in the future