Post sex etiquette - to stay or not to stay?

[ShadowMoonlight]

Exactly as above. You hook up, the chemistry is good - do you stay or always get the hell out of there (especially talking first or early dates here)?
Or do you play it case by case (or whatever is on your agenda next day)?

Case by case, although there is something to be said for leaving on a high though to keep the excitement going for next time

The very first time I met my husband we spent 3 nights together (in student halls at that). So I'd say always stay

We spent 3 days and nights together, he went to workx went home then came back again that night.

I would personally feel a bit used if someone left me straight after sleeping with me for the first time, but then I am a bit of an overthinker! I couldn't see myself doing it either for the same reason.

Probably on my own but I wouldn't really want to stay unless I had my stuff with me . In that respect I'd rather leave- doesn't mean you have to leap out of bed and awkwardly abruptly vacate though. I haven't had a ONS but early days of dating DP I'd go home in the early hours, if we'd done the deed, I'd stay afterwards for a bit, cuddle etc, have a chat then draw it to a close and go home. Your own bed is so much better than a strangers and I prefer to just relax with my own toiletries and not have to worry about what they think or morning breath etc

Are we talking one night stands or someone you're dating and genuinely like? If it's the latter I would definitely stay.

My preference would be for day time sex so it wouldn't be an issue early on. Pre dinner aperitif sex is lovely.

I enjoy my own space first thing in the morning.

Do you mean literally finish and get out? That's a bit grim. There wouldn't be another date for me if that happened.

Definitely stay for a while. Doesn't mean you have to spend the night.

I just wondered what people tend to do, as I’m really new to dating.

I went on a date and did end up staying but had a dreadful night sleep. And although he kindly offered to drop me home in the morning, I realised I needed to get home quite early and left in a hurry. I’m not sure if it would have been better to have gone home in the early hours instead.

On the other hand, if I hadn’t been in a rush I would have liked to stay for morning sex and a coffee before heading home.

I get what you mean. In the early days I prefer to wake up in my own surroundings. I think unless you've prearranged to stay you shouldn't feel obliged just because you've had sex.

The only time I have literally upped and left was after a ONS at a friends wedding ten years ago. Had a hookup in this guys hotel room and genuinely couldn't bear the thought of waking up there and having the awkward conversation with an almost stranger the next day. I got a very expensive taxi home instead and never saw him again!

Obviously if it's going somewhere you might want to be a bit more diplomatic about it

@ShadowMoonlight - Following on from my previous comments, it’s nice to stay for extras and breakfast, but I’m not keen on the whole bathroom thing with someone new. Do what feels right for you. There is no hard and fast rule beyond not going for “thanks for that, bye then”.

@beckywiththeshithair39 - l remember when my sister laid someone she just met at a wedding at an hotel, hence bedroom available. You couldn’t call it a ONS, it hadn’t even got to the evening; she’s been married to him for 10 years!

I know what you mean about the bathroom situation. This guy has a proper ‘bloke’ bathroom and I’m conscious about not having a toothbrush with me too.

I’m seeing him again tonight (only second time) and I don’t need to rush in the morning, but I don’t want to feel like I’m imposing by staying. What about the flip side - how would you feel about someone staying at yours after sex? Would you prefer they didn’t or would feel cheapened if they left?

Unless the sex is absolutely mind blowing I want them to GTFO ASAP. I'm really not good at sharing space.

I have a dog at home, so bfs can choose between me bringing the dog with me, or me going home afterwards. I also can't just stay overnight spontaneously as I have to take out my contact lenses. If someone didn't want another date based on me going home, I'd hope they would make that clear beforehand.
Personally I have no issues with someone going home afterwards. My bf sometimes comes over on a weeknight, of course he goes home after.

@ShadowMoonlight - l always have spare knickers, make up, deodorant, spare tights or stockings and toothbrush with me (l call it my “get lucky” bag!) but l still like my own bathroom. I also worry about doing an audible fart in someone else’s loo!