Does he like me or being polite?

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I have a major crush on the owner of the gym I go to. It's quite a small gym in a local town. I started going last year but had a long break in between and begun going again a month or so again.
When I see him I feel like there's a little flirt. He's always so nice and if in just standing there alone he goes out of his way to ask if I'm OK. I catch him sometimes looking at me and in classes he smiles at me quite alot. But then I think does he do it to everyone else because he has to be polite as he's the owner.
We are the same age and know alot of mutual people. He seems so nice but I don't know if he likes me or just being polite. He probably gets alot of attention from women too.
I feel like my logical brain isn't working. What should I do? Carry on the way I am? Or feel out to see if he likes me.

It's his job to be welcoming and friendly to everyone, and observe if they are happy and using the equipment properly. His business depends on it.
However he may well like you. Just be friendly back. Let him make the first move - if you made the first move and got rebuffed would you ever go back there? So leave it to him. If he is indeed interested he'll do something.

Yea you're right he's just being polite as it's his business.

If he likes you he will let you know by asking you out. I wouldn’t do anything personally. He could just be being friendly and then you would be mortified.

God no I do not want to embarrass myself. That would be extremely awkward

THese threads pop up often and posters always suggested, “going for it” and asking him out or adding him on Facebook etc. But I don’t believe that many people are as brave IRL.

Well I did add him on social media as he was tagged in his gym business post. He followed me back but don't know if it was out of obligation

Do you know if he is single?

OP, come and join us on this thread.

Is your crush called Tom, by any chance?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3831139-To-ask-you-if-you-have-a-real-life-crush-on-anyone

I don't know for sure but it seems from his social media he isn't in a relationship.
sucking I have read some of that thread! I should have added my crush on there really! Ha!

Update: we have been messaging 😊 and its more than gym chat

Omg loving this !!!!

Hope all goes well for you op ❤️

Keep us updated!

Yesss OP!

I wouldn't get too excited yet actually. Just realised he only messages back when he's in the gym working. So maybe he does has a girlfriend? Prob too good to be true knowing my luck

Any updates?

As a business owner, I "show an interest" in every customer.

Your best bet is starting a conversation, asking him how many hours he works, giving it some "wow that's real dedication" and then asking him if he fancies getting a coffee sometime.

Waiting for him to ask may have worked for your granny, but I'd like to think in this day and age women can make the first move. In fact I think of it as a feminist act.

Well he's ramped up his flirting over the past few days. I think he's trying to gauge if I like him OR he's trying to make me feel special so I spend more money at his business. Unsure tbh. And I'm not sure if I want to ask him out if he rejects me I'd be so embarrassed

Just ask him. Say he did say no embarrassment is only a temporary emotion. Say he says yes and it goes well well that would last a lot longer

Any updates? 👀