Relationship with SIL

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She drives me crazy. She is nasty, aggressive and threatening but yet expects that we hand over our child so she can have a relationship with him.

How much do you put up with?

You don't. If someone is aggressive to one person they can be so to a child in their care. You do not need to have any relationship with an aggressive and threatening person even if they are related to you.

Tell her to take a hike. She wouldn't be allowed anywhere near my children. What does your husband say?

My husband agrees with me. The problem is the fallout with the entire Ils could be huge if anything was said to her.

Then let the fall out happen!

Your child. Your rules.

Tbh, it sounds like a conversation that needs to be had!

Protect your child whatever the fallout might be - she doesn’t sound like a person who deserves a relationship with your child, and your child should not be subjected to her.

Just repeat to her and your in laws "why on earth would I let our child spend time alone with someone who is threatening and nasty to his parents" repeat repeat or just say to her "No and there is no discussion" and to the in laws "I"m not discussing this. Hey this corona virus is wild isn't it?"

Fuck the fall out.. you're priority needs to be the best interests of your CHILD... not a fucking nutter SIL...

Your job is to protect your child not placating your H’s family.

I’m guessing the dilemma is that your H talks a good game in private but is reluctant to be so forthright in front of his family.

The likelihood of SIL using your child against you is pretty high, so why would you knowingly subject your child to bearing witness to it?

Your child isn’t a toy

Don’t hand your child over to someone who doesn’t even like you

Yeah I agree. In my mothers day it was great nobody crossed the line regarding other peoples kids.

so why are You allowing it today OP?