How can I get over this feeling?

[Dannny9]

I've been a lone single parent for the past 3 years (no father or family help) and am feeling incredibly low.

I'm a very independent person and by no means need a relationship, but at the moment I feel as though I'm never going to have one. I've tried online dating and as soon as they find out I have a child they run. I've recently had a few dates with someone whom I met (not online) and the same happened, because I'm not able to regularly date, they run.

I'm still young, but feel as though I've completely messed up my chances of ever having a relationship and am quite frankly wasting my years which I'd love to spend with someone. I get envious of everyone else travelling with their partners etc while I'm so tied down, and not enjoying life at all.

I just can't seem to get out this negative mindset that I'm going to be alone forever, and even if not I'm not sure I want to wait another 10+ years until my little one will be more independent so that I can finally date. I just miss the affection etc.

Has anyone gone through similar, does it get better?

I felt the same as you for a long time - it’s a hard time. There are men who will date you and have a relationships with you but they have to be willing to fit in around you. Try not to be so down on yourself, look at the relationships that do work around you - plenty of single mums out there with boyfriends- I think be very clear about what you are looking for before you meet up and get invested. Being a single parent is bloody hard and can wear you down, but try to get out of this negative mindset and recognise that you are a catch, and don’t have to settle. x

And yes it does get better - I have a lovely man in my life.

I know lots of guys who are with single mums. If they arent interested in your child they arent worth having. Enjoy your child and be happy with him / her . He / she wont be young forever they are precious years and blokes will be out there for years to come x