Hi all,
Would really like to hear from a ladies perspective if what I'm about to say is similar to what I'll be asking - guys if you want to comment then great and I welcome and thank everyone now for taking time to read my predicament
Long story short, last summer I asked my wife if everything is ok - noticed a sea change in her, no affection, little communication, didn't want to spend time with me etc total opposite to what I'd had/known during our 14 years together. she wrote me a letter explaining she didn't care about me in that way anymore and we should separate. Cue me having a meltdown and being clingy in the vain attempt to save my marriage.
Turns out she was having an affair with her work colleague, all the red flags were there - new hair, new underwear, hiding phones and the smoking gun - emergency contraception pill box in her bag, she said it was her friends! Anyway this other guy left his wife the same time we split up and I believe they're an item even though they're still trying to keep it so work doesn't find out.
My question I need help with answering is this. How do I get her back from this guy? I admit I'm guilty of being complacent in our marriage at times and he must be a charmer and turned her head but I'm still madly in love with her and so want to be a family again.
I know this will throw open a huge spectrum of answers but I would really like to hear from women who have 'run off' so to speak. What would it have taken for your ex to have got you back? What do I need to do to prove she made the wrong decision for me and our son. If he had done this then... kind of thing. I know no two relationships are the same but if I get some consensus it's somewhere to start my challenge.
Like I said I'm still madly in love with my wife and would do anything to resolve the matter. I'm sure there's loads of couples who have gone through this and much worse yet come out the other side a more committed unit.
Thanks for reading folks