Hubbys brother has just split up with his girlfriend after 11 yrs, living together for most of it but no children. He called his parents to tell them but told the rest of the family in a very brief e:mail. He went home to see his parents for the first time since the split this weekend and the whole thing wasnt mentioned at all by anyone. DH said he probably just wants to get on and put it behind him. I felt rather different and feel its a bit of a worry. Perhaps its just my nature to talk things through. I personally feel thats it would have been better for him to talk, albeit briefly to his parents, get it out and then put it behind him. Would this worry you or am I just blowing things out of proportion. We dont know the reason for the split, but she went off travelling a few years back with friends and I think she wants to go again, he is in a very stable job and wouldnt be able to really. This could be the reason but also she didnt want kids or marriage. Probably the latter I guess. Either way an 11 year relationship is hard to come out of.