Anxiety and insecurity

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Posting in mental health too. I've been in a relationship for 7 months, following along period of being single after my marriage ended.

Sometimes, for no reason I am find, I feel so worried, anxious and insecure. I convince myself he isn't into me and is going to end it. He doesn't do anything (I don't think) to make me feel like this. Then I wonder if it's my instincts picking up on signs and I shouldn't ignore it! He says and acts as if he likes he a lot. He tells me he loves me, and he prioritises spending time with me.

I haven't told him I feel like this because the problem is with me, but is there anyway I can stop the overwhelming anxiety and fear I sometimes feel?

I'm 7 years in and still get this sometimes.
"He's being too nice" "I'm too much like hard work" "he'll find someone prettier/fitter/more well off".

Do you have a history of anxiety?

There's no quick fix but he's into you and you're into him and all you can do is believe him when he tells you he loves you.

I'm getting there - it just takes a long time sometimes.

You worry he doesn't love you because sometimes you feel unlovable. There's nothing wrong with that. It's just that reassurance from him won't necessarily fix it. You'll find yourself needing more and more. The best way to feel lovable is to work on yourself. Reassure yourself. Counselling is the way to go.

I have always been prone to low level anxiety about some things, yes. I think counselling is a good idea, I am pretty sure the problem lies with me. I just can't shake the feeling that maybe it's a valid feeling and I shouldn't ignore it. I guess that is what anxiety does to you though. Thank you for your replies.

This has been a daily battle for me, for years. For no reason, as my DH has been with me 18 years and never one day passes that he doesnt tell me how much he loves me. Still, I spend hours feeling anxious that he finds others more attractive, will eventually leave etc and hes done Jack shit to warrant those feelings !

Anxiety is very cruel

I had this really really bad. my last serious relationship was very abusive and it left me with major insecurities. He would cheat on me, stay out all night, hit me, steal from me etc. So when my new fella moved in I had a bit of a breakdown. I was so scared. I got crippling anxiety and heart palpitations. I went to the docs and they prescribed me with mirtazipine and I’m now much better. However the answer isn’t in a pill completely. I still work on myself and put in the effort In my relationship so I can think if he ever left me he would b a mug! But it’s a continual slog. Mental health is bloody difficult but your guy loves you

Thank you so much. He does I know, every now and then I get moments of lucidity where I feel no anxiety and just happiness. But the anxiety always comes back. I'm so sorry to hear how many others go through this, I really hope it'll fade eventually