So lonely

[Nolooker]

Just that really I’m so lonely. I’m early 30s and have a temp job at the moment where I earn every little and my colleagues are a lot older. I’ve been single 5 years and have tried so many things to meet someone . I don’t have many friends.

I just feel like I don’t know why I get up and bother . I come home ( to my parents house ) and just watch tv. My job in interesting but I’m so sad.

I had the same problem in my early 20’s, I made myself isolated and didn’t make any plans and most of my friends lives moved on.

I joined a book club, running club and the gym. The girls from the book club have become my closest friends.

Loneliness is hard - but you can find ways to combat it.

Rather than setting out deliberately to meet 'someone' think about meeting people through shared interests or hibbies. What interests you? Travel? Community? Sports? Walking? Volunteering?
Think about joining some groups where you'll get the chance to meet other people. Have a look on your local Facebook site to see what's going on locally to you and get involved. Someone above suggested a book group - that's a great idea.

Even though your job is interesting if you are bored have you thought of taking a year out and travelling. Or even just changing your job to somewhere more vibrant with younger people.

If you find it difficult to make friends there are strategies you can use - there's some great books out there that can help you. Getting involved in a life outside of work and home will bring you into contact with people and expand your network. It makes you a more interesting person - especially if you're passionate about what you're doing - and therefore a more attractive option.

Sorry you are lonely. Start filling in some job applications and also go to some clubs outside of work

Have you thought about moving in to a house share? Brilliant way to not only meet people but also to find independence.