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Husband has pictures of other women on computer

18 replies

Tulip1011 · 04/03/2020 16:42

I am not sure how to react.
A year ago when I was pregnant I sneaked a look at my husbands iPad (had previous issues with last partner and knew I shouldn’t but was being paranoid). I saw he had emailed to himself photos of two women naked, clearly he had found them on dating website as they were obviously not living in this country. I went mental, he apologised said they were old photos he had found in his phone he was keeping as little trophies.

Yesterday he was out and I checked iPad (had so far trusted him) and found more photos recently deleted of a foreign lady topless, and another couple he had emailed to himself. This time it was clear who one person was I found her number and messaged, she said they had never met and I had nothing to worry about. Again I confronted him, he said they were old tinder matches and the photos were again apparently old although they were in contact now as “friends” and he has told her he was married, baby etc. One particularly gross anal shot that he had emailed to himself was apparently sent from a lady on Instagram who was “probably sending it to everyone”. I’m pretty f&&ked off as you might imagine, with a young baby. According to him this embarrassing but “normal male behaviour”, “all men have some dirt on their phones”. How pissed off should I be.

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mamato3lads · 04/03/2020 16:53

Erm.... if it's just random images from porn sites I personally wouldn't get too angry.. it seems a lot of men use these pics as wank material. Bit gross but its true.

If its just that then I would ask him to be more discrete.... assuming you have ho moral issue with porn and have a decent sex life.

If it's not random and these are people he knows or is messaging or paying for or whatever then that's not ok in my book

Masturbation is one thing, he may have favourite images that get him off so hes emailed them to.himself to save. But if its anything more than that , he'd be in trouble if he was my DH x

Tulip1011 · 04/03/2020 17:01

Nope not porn sites. I already told him I don’t have a problem with him watching porn, these are people that have messaged him personal pics. Sex life not great due to sleeping in different rooms as he snores and I can’t handle it with the baby waking me up as well. It was starting to improve tho.i dont see it as an excuse

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MashedSpud · 04/03/2020 17:08

He’s disgusting.

I knew a guy (ex friend) who would do this and share the photos with friends/friends online. He was married but thought it was fun trying to charm these women into sending pics.

Ilovethekitties · 04/03/2020 17:15

What conversations is he having with these women to get these photos?

He doesn't respect you. What a pig.

Tulip1011 · 04/03/2020 17:26

No idea. Apparently he is just friendly but they are horny and send pictures. Pfff. What should I do?

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Shoxfordian · 04/03/2020 17:30

Dump him
He's disgusting

VisionQuest · 04/03/2020 17:32

I wonder how he would feel if you had a collection of other men's cocks and bum holes on your phone? I suspect he might be upset about it.

Honestly, how fucking disrespectful.

Eminado · 04/03/2020 17:33

“No idea. Apparently he is just friendly but they are horny and send pictures. Pfff. What should I do?”

Sorry but I wouldnt buy this Hmm

Eminado · 04/03/2020 17:34

I wonder how he would feel if you had a collection of other men's cocks and bum holes on your phone? I suspect he might be upset about it.

Honestly, how fucking disrespectful.

^^
This x 1 billion.

opticaldelusion · 04/03/2020 18:33

In my experience it's not 'normal male behaviour'.

WorkWalk · 04/03/2020 19:04

He is 100% out of order.

Lipz · 04/03/2020 19:08

Yeah cos friends send pictures if their bum hole Hmm

Print them out and hang them all around the house.

EmotionalFlood · 04/03/2020 20:02

It's not normal behaviour. It's disrespectful and I'd be suspicious what else is going on. As for the PP saying all men have this on their phones... they don't... He's a sleaze.

AnyFucker · 04/03/2020 20:08

That is not "normal male behaviour" that is sleazy as fuck

I feel sorry for you. Find your self respect and tell him to fuck off to his ridiculous sex fantasy world

He makes my skin crawl and I don't even know him

Fedupandpoor · 04/03/2020 20:09

Sounds a lot like the sex chat company I just got fired from! Cloudworkers/chat from home do this, it's a text flirt company where the 'girl' sends naked and explicit selfies of herself. However, the girl is just a persona and the replies are from multiple operators, men, women you name it. Who the fuck would send pictures of their anus to random men on twitter? Huge chance of getting blackmailed!

Can you check bank statements op to see if he's buying credits on sex chat sites? It will be called text services or chat something. What a twat, he's probably speaking to a burly bloke named Keith who's texting from his mums basement! 😂

Fedupandpoor · 04/03/2020 20:10

*Tinder, not twitter. That would be even worse!

mamato3lads · 04/03/2020 22:55

Yep, that's over and above OP. That's not.just a quick wank. Hes taking the absolute piss and is basically cheating on you. Sleazy and a bit creepy ... dont like that one bit.

You need to have words with him and then tell him to fuck off. You really dont need this in your life.

RLOU30 · 04/03/2020 23:03

Fuck how vile. Literally my knees would slam shut for good if I were you.

Disrespectful is an understatement. The creep.

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