Sex in a new relationship.

[Pennypringles]

My marriage of 25 years ended last year. We are separated but not divorced as yet, although it's only the cost that is holding it up.
I've recently met someone through a friend, chatting online for a few weeks and have been on a fair few proper dates. The talk hasn't turned to sex yet...logistically it's problematic as he lives in a different city and I live with my kids.. so the opportunity hasn't arisen either. And we both made it clear that we weren't chatting for the chance of a one night fling type thing.
I think I'm very adventurous sexually, I'm not prudish, I'm happy with my body etc but I've been with one man in 25 years so now I don't know who I am. One part of me thinks it's only sex go get some, and the other thinks I shouldn't be having sex with some random man I met on the internet...
The first date felt like a big step for me, obviously the first first-date in 25 years, sex with someone new seems like the next one.
Does that make sense to anyone?

None of us can give you an answer, you just have to do what feels right to you. If you want to wait, that is fine. If you don't want to wait, that is fine too.

Well, at the end of the day part of getting out there and dating is precisely to work these things out for yourself, where the boundaries lie for you and so on.

However I'd say someone you've had a few dates with isn't "some random man" - he's someone you're dating! And sleeping with someone you're dating is perfectly natural. It's also fine to hold out and wait until you're totally comfortable - it's your body and you should do what feels best for you. I'd try to stop overthinking it and do what comes naturally. You're not hopping into bed with someone as you've been seeing him a while.

I totally get this. Sleeping with someone else after my 15 year marriage ended felt like jumping off a cliff.
But as a friend explained, "at the end of the day it's just sex."
Well she was sort of right but in actual fact, the sex I'm having now is miles better than what I experienced in my marriage (and I thought we had a reasonable sex life).
It's been a revelation, honestly!
I feel excited for you given your description of your sexuality.
Try not to get hung up on the "random internet" thing. He's not. And anyway, who cares!
Society sets out so many cautions and rules that prevent women enjoying sex (or god forbid, saying so).
Listen to your body, communicate with your partner, and enjoy!