Signs someone secretly fancies you

[LittleMissWeary]

Inspired by other threads on the relationship board, how do you tell if someone secretly fancies you?

I frequently hear of people talking about secret crushes and how they think they're reciprocated - but how do you know??

Is it a gut feeling?

I work with someone who I sometimes think likes me /attracted to me but then i think not...

You catch them looking at you, they seem to be around more than normal, they talk about you to other people, they might start doing things like bringing you a coffee...

Thanks pip I'm in my 40s but sometimes feel like a schoolgirl!

Well, you nailed it there with the schoolgirl reference.

You know it's a 'secret crush' by the fact you're both 12.

If you're not both 12, then the time has come to bring it out into the open and ask this person on a date.

Oh god, I’m in this predicament right now! Further fuelled by the fact he said I looked to glamorous to have a mouthful of biscuits!!

Hmm I don’t know, I think when you fancy a person it’s easy to convince yourself every look means something.
Generally speaking though, smiles at you, says hello when they see you (such as in passing), speaks to you when they don’t necessarily have to...,,

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i think when you fancy a person it’s easy to convince yourself every look means something.

Exactly, that's my problem too...

Glamorous with a mouthful of biscuits is a good sign though 😁

I used to believe that if you felt the ‘spark’ then they did too, but then how do you explain Stalkers and limerence? I wish there was a clear checklist for if they fancy you back

OP why don't you get this moved to relationships? They might have a good insight, plus the chat board is very fast moving.

Agree this would be good in relationships

I've asked for it to be moved 😊

If you could read the signs then it wouldn't be secret.

Fair point crapette

I would like to know the answers too as I prob inadvertently do most of them to people (even friends) without realising!

It’s hard when you feel like they can feel your fanny flutters... but then is this how stalkers feel?!

I think stalkers take it to a whole other level...

I sometimes wonder how much the other person picks up on my attraction