Should I cut them out of my life.
So I'm not sure whether I'm being a bitch about this situation or not but a guy I used to talk to on and off a couple of years ago is obsessed with me and contacts me most days not with a hi how's you. He just says random shite e.g. he's balding and thinks this shampoo is gonna work and yapped when it didn't. If I didn't reply he'd write again about something else random that has nothing to do with what he said previously e.g. something about a sports club. I don't mind the odd convo as I've decided to keep him at arm's length after years of hot and cold behaviour. Yes he was there for me during a toxic relationship that ended in December 2017 but looking back when we were friends I noticed signs that he flip flops between decisions in his life. I thought things would get better when I broke up with my ex but that behaviour continued. I told him after I broke up with toxic ex that I need at least a month before jumping in another relationship but to continue to be there for me. The weekend after he was really distant and rarely replied. I was really down had dark thoughts that weekend as my head was a mess after the toxic relationship. That following Monday he yapped that people in his college made fun of him shaving his head and that a girl yapped and went off on him for cancelling a date with her that week because his dog wasn't well. I decided to back off a bit then we started talking again. The first few weeks went well but then he started taking to his ex and telling me about it. Went onto her FB and he'd liked a few of her pics. Ones of her posing sexy etc. He never liked any of my pics and that made me feel really insecure especially as this was before I lost weight so I was generally feeling really ugly at that point and his ex is really pretty so made me feel not good enough. After a while I decided to tell him to just be friends as his hot and cold behaviour was messing me about and getting me down. He would swing between being really attentive and there for me to bring distant and rarely replying. Also going in circles with his life. He understood but wormed his way in a month or so later. One day on he messaged me asking to meet up. I said I'll be going to meet my friend but he can tag along. Long story short my friend cancelled as he was held back and I was asked to look after my wee brother so had to cancel on this guy. He went off on me saying I abandoned and left him in town like a dickhead. I told him my situation but he said he'd never do that to me ever and that I should piss off. After a while we became friends again but I've held him at arm's length. When I met up with him and other friends after Christmas 2018 he tried to get with me. Hugging me all the time and pulling me close. When I had met up with him before he couldn't wait to move away from me and did fuck all when my ex and his friend were shouting at me for a joke I made. He just said don't want to get involved and walked away with me being in tears. Not even are you ok? Nothing. When the time he was hugging all round me I had just broken up with a guy and was low but didn't want to be with him after all that history and told him repeatedly I only see him as a friend. When I broke up with my latest ex (he was similar to this guy but on a different level as the relationship had been more intimate) after an argument over messenger at 3am when he called and messaged me drunk. My head was a mess and thankfully was meeting a good friend of mine. I told this guy about what had happened as he asked me what was wrong and he was there for me. He asked to meet up. I said I was meeting my friend then he said I thought me and you could meet. I said you can tag along with us. Again he tried to get with me after I had explained to him and my friend all what had happened. He tried holding my hand and asking me out. Again I told him my head is a mess and I only see you as a friend. He convinced my friend that me and him could be a good couple. I felt really uncomfortable. Fast forward to now. I'm happy and settled with an amazing boyfriend who treats me better than any guy ever has and we get on amazingly and are in love. He shows no signs of previous partners which is good.
I'm deciding whether to keep this obsessive ex at arm's length or to remove him from all social media and to cut him out. Yes I appreciate the good times when he really has been there for me but everytime he messages I get angry as he held me back from moving forward with my life and getting settled down. Not just him but other guys did. I've muted him so his face doesn't pop up. I don't mind the odd message but a normal one like hi how's you not one about random shite. I find his messages very draining. Should I cut him out or am I being too bitter. I feel recently I've been bitter about past things. Thanks for your help x