Who has found true love and a parent post 30 and/or divorce?

[Salemss1]

I’m 30, nearly 31, and my love life has been pretty rocky. My college love/soulmate unexpectedly passed away when I was 23 after 4 years together. A few months after he died, I fell in love again. My ex husband we moved in, got engaged and married. We've since separated, fairly amicably, in late 2019.

Since then, I am mostly just concentrating on living my best life and having fun. I’ve started dating again and am getting discouraged that I’m 30 and haven’t yet found the right guy. I recognize I have time and don’t need a man to be happy but I would eventually like to find someone. Plenty of my friends are still single but it is hard watching so many people around me be in happy, healthy relationships. I am overall pretty relaxed about my single-ness but I'd like it to happen soon than later.

Anyone been in my boat? What’s your story?

I also would love to talk one on one if anyone would be willing!

I got married at 37, to a guy I'd known for 15 years but had only dated for two. I already had a child from a previous relationship and dh and I have gone on to have two more children. We're together 18 years.

Never say never.

I was married to my first love, were together from age 14 to 23, was divorced by the time I was 26 (it was a long drawn out divorce due to him trying to avoid it). We did make 2 children in that time.

Single for 3 years and then started a relationship with a new guy. Ultimately got engaged after 2 years. Another 2 years after that I found out he had been cheating (alot) and that ended.

I was in absolute despair. I was 31 and I had spent half of my life with men who actually, it seemed, never even liked me very much. I thought I was unlovable and just a magnet for abusive wastes of space. Perhaps so insecure and an easy target that they just found me like heat seeking missiles!

Cue 10 months on from that breakup and a random OLD message led to me meeting a lovely guy. One of those "should I even message him, he is too gorgeous" situations. 18 months later I am madly in love, he thinks the sun shines out of me and we are exceedingly happy. He is everything that my exes weren't; kind, generous, ambitious, successful, fabulous with my kids and just adores me. Tells me so multiple times a day.
My life these days compared to my marriage, or even my last relationship is just night & day. I am so glad that things never worked out the way I had wanted them too so badly over all those years.
Honestly, it all works out in the end and you too will be so happy you didn't settle for less than your worth and waited for your happy ever after.

Even if my relationship ended next week I now know that a) I'm not a troll b) I am worth loving c) Being single is actually not the worst thing imaginable. Being with someone who doesn't love you is.