Should I even bother meeting him ?

[Username109876]

Talking to a Spanish guy on a dating app who has been studying here. This is due to come to an end and his plan is to either look for work here, or in London, 200 miles away.

He's a 'don't know yet' on Bumble.

Not taking any more chances with these guys who 'might be leaving' and can't commit to anything. Would you bother meeting him ?

No

Do you think he probably wants nothing serious ?

Do you think he probably wants nothing serious ?

Yes.

I think I have my answer then... To the unmatch button !

Would anyone actually meet him ?

No, not unless you just want a bit of casual fun

Just removed him, i'm sure it was for the best. Can't believe the amount of men on there who just want something casual to be honest.

Because they just want sex and no commitment

Just seems like it's the majority of them though. So many 30+ year-old men who put 'something casual' on their profile.

I'm finding there's lots of 40+ men who are only after sex too!! Seems to be the norm on OLD sadly

Yeah :/ shame really.. It's so hard to meet people IRL though lol especially when you work full-time.

Remember though, Bumble is where men take the passive role in dating. Maybe that attracts more than the average number of casual men..? If they were more dynamic and really searching for their soul mate, wouldn't they be more likely to a dating app where they could look at anyone's profile and make the first move themselves?

Just a thought. I know you get loads of casual men on the other apps and sites too. Online-dating does seem to be treated by some men like a sexual pick and mix. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I honestly don't know, Username. Internet dating didn't happen when I was young so no experience.

However I would think there are plenty of people who would like a relationship without making a long term commitment and I see nothing wrong with that. Not all relationships are meant to last forever but they can still be worthwhile. At least on a dating site people can say what they want and don't want, filtering out those who don't suit you. That way everyone knows where they stand from the start. It could change over time of course, there must be many couples who started off having a no strings relationship but then really fell for each other.

I’m not sure I agree, as tinder is full of men after just sex, and I’ve heard much worse stories about it tbh I think most of them are probably on all the apps and sites anyway!

Sexual pick and mix 😂

That's a good point about Bumble, I never thought of it that way.

Same for Tinder, Hinge etc..

That said my friend met someone at a football event the other week and it's turned out he only wanted a fling, same for a guy I met through a flatmate.

Just feel like it's hard either way lol

My son did that (living in London and met a woman from another country) - he's getting married to her this year, so it does work for some people!