Totally blanking me

[wishing4sun]

Me and DP 18mths had a blazing row on Saturday night we don't live together, he was staying at mine and has totally removed all his stuff gone back to his and is ignoring all calls.

The row was my fault but fuelled by alcohol, I have apologised. I don't know what else to do he is now away for 10 days with work and I just want him to talk to me instead of total blankness.

There's more to the boyfriend leaving than just one drunken night.

I dunno but in my own opinion, regardless of who is to blame or who started the argument etc, the fact he is 'in the huff and not talking' is still a very childish way to deal with an argument. If he has had enough and wants to end things he should man up and just tell her. The silent treatment solves nothing.

The packing all his stuff and ignoring you is punishment for your wrongdoing. You have apologised, not much more you can do except see whether he accepts it or not. But for me the silent treatment no matter what is not good. He should be able to at least say I need some time to think or its over. I'd leave the ball in his court, even though that will be hard.

Sounds like he has decided to LTB. Sorry OP.

There's nothing you can do but wait and see. It might be over.

How are things going, OP?

Things are ok not great but ok we are speaking have had an honest chat he is away for at least another 10 days so I guess the true test will be when I see him next. I've apologised and also told him that blanking me wasn't much fun , his reason was he was just angry and needed a bit of space, my Responce was well when/if there is a problem again I think just telling me that would save a lot of sleepless nights all round.

Glad you've spoken, that's a relief especially if he's going away as it's horrible to be on bad terms when you can't see someone in person and give them a hug and say sorry I was a nob! Have you discussed if you're going to give him space while he's away and just get in touch when he's back or are you hoping to carry on as normal?

Am I the only one who thinks staying out wasn’t a big deal? Seems a lot of upset over nothing. I know, he was going away for 10 days...but meh, he’ll be back soon enough.

Haven't actually seen him as he went away on the Sunday. We're in contact but probably not as much as we would usually be, we both agreed that that's what we would do and have a proper face to face talk when he gets back.

Did you actually let him know where you were when you stayed out? Because if not, id be super mad if id spent the night worrying youd had an accident or were off with someone else, just because you were resentful about an argument. (Which is what it would have looked like at the time.)

He did know where I was.

What was his reaction/reply when you told him at the time?
Male or female friend?