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Did you just ‘know’?

28 replies

daffodilrosedaisy · 01/03/2020 14:49

Bit of a lighthearted one - just wondering if you just ‘knew’ your partner/husband was the one? Was it apparent early on, or did it happen gradually?

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MaidenMotherCrone · 01/03/2020 14:50

Yes. It happened more or less straight away.

Clangus00 · 01/03/2020 14:54

I knew the first time I laid eyes on him (🤢, I really did though).

Bookworm83 · 01/03/2020 14:57

I knew before I even met him in person (we chatted via email and Skype for a couple of months before meeting). He's my dream come true Halo Together 6 years, married since last year, baby on the way Smile

n00bMaster69 · 01/03/2020 14:59

I also knew before meeting him in RL, we hadn't even Skyped.

thickwoollytights · 01/03/2020 15:05

Back in 1990 a friend asked me how I knew my then fiancé was 'the one'. I said 'you just know'

We split up for good 9 months later Grin

The universe has a habit of batting ego right back at you ConfusedHmm

PrincessHoneysuckle · 01/03/2020 15:19

Yes.We went on holiday after 2months together and then I was pregnant the month after.Weve been together 7 years and married for 4

Mum4Fergus · 01/03/2020 15:24

Yes, pretty much immediate on meeting him.

Sparklyring · 01/03/2020 15:27

Almost straight away, it was like he was who I'd been waiting for without knowing I was waiting.

nickname302 · 01/03/2020 15:42

I met two "the ones", they were both arseholes!

IceColdCat · 01/03/2020 15:52

No, we took it slowly to begin with. He was a slow burn. We've been together for 23 years now.

Newnamewhodis1 · 01/03/2020 15:57

Hahaha. No. There's more than one for everyone. Lots more

RLEOM · 01/03/2020 16:02

I thought I'd found love at third date, was so happy, started a family, looked forward to our future, knew he was the one for me. Wrong. Turns out he was a compulsive cheat, a compulsive liar, and a money thief. The icing on the cake was when his porn addiction came to light.

Oh, the lessons I learnt with that "one".

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 01/03/2020 16:03

I wouldn’t say that I knew he was ‘the one’ when I met him but I remember something in my head telling me he was special to me in some way. He asked me out a few times before we got together nearly 6 months later. Fell pregnant and DD was born before we made it to 1 year together. We’ve now been together for 7 years this year, married for over a year and are expecting DC2. I don’t believe in soul mates or fate but I believe he is a near-perfect match for me.

Middersweekly · 01/03/2020 16:12

I don’t believe in finding “the one”etc but... when I met first DH I had a sort of had a premonition about children. This had never happened with anyone else I had been with and I had never been remotely broody. It was a very strange feeling tbh but here we are 18 years later with 4 DC!

MonaChopsis · 01/03/2020 16:20

Yes. Had a proper 'eyes meeting across a crowded room' moment. After a fairytale of a year he was more and more of an abusive arsehole and I left with DD and the remnants of my sanity about 10 years later. There is no such thing as 'the one'.

Itsallgonewoowoo · 01/03/2020 17:15

Yep, reacted to meeting him differently than any one else. Married within a year, been together 20 still adore him, BUT I could have felt all that and been wrong, I don't believe in love at first sight, even though I've experienced very close to it.

WellThatsOriginal · 01/03/2020 22:45

Met at work. I genuinely knew the first time I looked at him.

OhWellThatsJustGreat · 01/03/2020 22:52

Sort of, I knew I wanted to be with him all the time when we met , but I'd say it was about 3 months before I know I wanted to be with him forever and not spend all of my free time with him 😂
12 years a dog and a baby later, we're as happy as ever.

I still curse him occasionally as I was recently single when we met and I'd planned to be single for a while.

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daffodilrosedaisy · 05/03/2020 20:46

Aw thanks for your responses everyone interesting to see there’s a mix and sorry to read that some of you had hard times :( hugs to you if you’re still affected by that.

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restingbitchface30 · 05/03/2020 21:18

We were friends for 5 years but as soon as my feelings changed to romantic ones I knew.

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daffodilrosedaisy · 05/03/2020 21:20

@restingbitchface30 aw that’s sometimes the best way being friends first isn’t it

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JillAmanda · 05/03/2020 21:26

Yes. I’d been in relationships with men I fancied more but for the first few weeks of our relationship I couldn’t eat. I constantly had butterflies; not like before though. I just knew this one was going to be a - THE - biggie.

21 years this year 😁

AlwaysInTroubleAgain · 05/03/2020 21:28

Yes. I knew I loved them within about 30 seconds and I knew I'd marry them by the next day

Verbena87 · 05/03/2020 21:30

Just got on like old friends within hours of meeting - took months to realise I’d fallen for him but when I realised it was just huge and obvious and the first day we were together I accidentally started a sentence with “so when we’re married”. That was 11 years ago (though it took us a while to actually get wed)

Craftycorvid · 05/03/2020 21:35

When I have experienced the weirdery that is one look and that’s ‘it’, the sex was bloody amazing but it settled into a rather sweet FWB as we are just too different. With DH, completely different. Was, and still is, a good partnership - no fireworks but if we were a business, we’d be solvent. Grin