Relationship rant!

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Hi all. I’m very sorry. Just need somewhere to rant today. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to. I’ve recently moved away from my family home with my partner. We both work full time (he also works Saturdays). I spend Saturdays alone, cooking/ cleaning etc.

On Sunday’s, he never seems to want to do anything (I do understand that he works hard and is probably tired). Money is tight at the moment as he is self employed and some builders have just ‘done him over’ by £7000. I suggested a meal (but he said we need to save money- which I totally get). So I asked if we could go for a walk - but he doesn’t want to do that either.

He sits in the lounge watching TV whilst I watch TV in our bedroom. I feel like our relationship is slowly drifting apart. I don’t have many friends or hobbies either. I feel that I have nothing to look forward to in life other than work, cleaning, sitting around on my own. I do most of the housework - he just comes home and sits in the living room.

I don’t exactly know what response I wanted to get from this - I suppose I just wanted somewhere to write down how I feel. Thanks for reading.

So he works 6 full days a week??
What time do you both get in at night?
Why can't you get a hobby on a Saturday?
You need to widen your friendship group and a club may help with that.
Have a look on meetup.com - there are usually lots of things going on, including walking groups.
But if you are watching TV in different rooms then I'm not sure what the point of this is?
I think you want different things.
Have different goals in life.
It may be that you are not compatible.
How viable is it for you to go home again now?

Why do you watch different things?

Is he watching sport ?

I've been going through this recently OP. And read on a different post to remember that kindness breeds kindness. You might not get a response at first but keep trying to connect with him- go and sit with him rather than sitting upstairs. If he's too tired to do anything else, at least try and find something that you can watch together?

But from your post this doesn't sound like it's just about your partner. I also think that finding something you can invest your own time in would help, even going for walks on your own would be good for your mental health and might encourage him to join in.

You can't put all of this onto your partner, it isn't healthy to rely on him for your entire social life especially if he works 6 days a week.
I've just moved to a town where I don't know anyone and I've joined every club going.
I've got three evenings next week full. Go out and start making friends, you life will really improve.