That seems to have difficulties with men accepting I want some alone time? Time to myself, time to do things with other people, time to do things other than just have a relationship be the focus of my entire life?
I just feel suffocated really. Readers of my other threads know that I am not in the most healthy relationship anyway. It is worse because he lives very close. I just want space, not the presumption that I will always be seeing him. I told him this many times before and told him I was tired of always being the one that says I have other plans or want time to myself. He said he doesn't expect to see me all the time but he never says he wants a night to himself. He never has other plans because he is a shut-in basically. And sometimes he says things that are presumptuous like "see you tomorrow" even though we had never discussed or agreed to see each other tomorrow. It just annoys me a little.
He has never demanded that I do nothing but see him, that I don't see friends or anything like that. He has never demanded that my whole life just revolve around a relationship. But it is just the fairly regular presumptions like the example above, and the fact it is always me that says I want a night to myself (then I feel guilty for it) that bothers me. And I know I can't have more than a few nights to myself without him worrying/not being happy about it even though he doesn't really say that outright, I just get the feeling.
Maybe I am no longer cut out for serious relationships! (I have had a lot of bad experiences prior to this anyway. I come from a small family, I am independent and do like my all alone time. I would also like to try and focus my time more on building friendships specifically with women)
This one is also difficult because when we are together, we have to just do things together. Like we have to be watching TV together (this is pretty much all we do anyway apart from eating and sex). When I lived with my long term ex, we were in the same part of the house but often did other things, he would be gaming, I would be reading etc. So I guess that made me feel more happy as I knew we could be in close proximity, hang out a bit but still follow separate interests etc. If that makes sense. I suppose it is easier to do that if you do live together though.
I suppose I am just having a rant and wonder if anybody else has had this experience?