Date 4 - no spark

[Meandmyboy20]

That’s just it really. Met a guy online a few weeks ago and went out for the fourth time yesterday. He’s nice enough (not quite the same sense of humour 😩)I feel no attraction towards him at all. He wants to meet again but I’m not sure... He has also not paid me any compliments at all which is not what I’m used to on dates.
Any thoughts?

Yes, forget it. You need the spark. I’ve done no spark with nice guys and i wouldn’t do it again. He doesn’t sound for you

Think you’re right, hard work this online dating thing 😩

I dated the most wonderful, considerate, smart, kind person once. I wish I could have loved him. But that complete lack of spark led to much frustration and I ended up getting annoyed at him regularly.

I think no spark works for some people but not many. If I had it to do again I wouldn't have gone on the second date. It was cruel to waste his time.

With guys I’ve dated before, the spark is quite heightened at this stage!! Not with this one

If he hasn't paid you any compliments then he's probably feeling the same way about the relationship. Do both of you a favour a knock it on the head.

I'd say forget it! Just before I met my partner I was in a similar situation. I was dating a guy who was all round lovely, good looking, successful, wanted the same things as me etc. We got on well too BUT there was just no spark and while I liked spending time with him I wasn't totally excited about it. I am in my mid 30s though & hadn't had much luck with dating for the 6 months or so previously. It did cross my mind that maybe I should persevere with this guy as he wanted a relationship & i did worry that I might regret ending things with someone who was so perfect on paper.

However, I decided to end things with him & a few weeks later I started talking to my now-boyfriend. It was night & day! We had amazing chemistry, I got butterflies when I saw him, we could sit & talk for hours, I would sit & grin like an idiot just because I'd got a text from him & I wanted to spend all of my time with him.

I'm so glad I didn't settle. If I had I'd never have got together with my current partner. That is what it should be like & you deserve to find someone who is crazy about you / you about them. In my opinion if that spark isn't there initially it is unlikely to come later.

Be nice and say I like x and x about you and I’m sure the right woman is out there but I don’t want to waste any more of your time when you can be looking for the person for you

Thanks for your comments. It’s weird about the compliments as he seems so keen to meet up, texts every day, etc.
However I’m not feeling it ( so whether he is or isn’t) i really need to end it..

No, you’re wasting your time here.

Why would you keep seeing someone you don't find attractive?!

When I've felt guilty about being in your position before I've thought about it from their point of view. I'd be so sad to think someone was seeing me even though they didn't fancy me, if they continued to see me just because there was no glaring red flag so I was a 'safe choice'.

Not fair on either of you - you gave it a go and had four dates. No need to keep seeing him.

Compliments are cheap they dont necessarily mean anything

I think a sincere compliment means a lot! Well I’ve drafted a text to send him...

The chemistry is needed. I was dating a guy a few weeks ago who didn't feel the spark for me. He didn't want to kiss or touch me and I convinced myself it was because he was a gentleman. He ended it with me after 5 dates and I'm convinced it was because he just didn't fancy me. If there's no spark after that time it most likely won't work.