Does asking someone why they are avoiding you ever get an honest answer?

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Since mid-Jan, a friend who I would usually see about once a week appears to be avoiding me. Last time I saw her everything seemed to be fine and we arranged to go to a specific event together a week later. She cancelled this at the last minute, which I was ok with, and since then every time I've suggested meeting up she is either busy or says she will get back to me and doesn't.

I've asked her if everything is ok and she doesn't seem to have anything extra going on in her life that wasn't happening before Jan. My next thought is to ask her if I've upset her in some way. However, a long time ago I had a similar situation with a friend who said she was just busy. Then we ran into each other one evening and she blatantly ignored me. I never did get to the bottom of what happened. I've also seen messages on here before about dropping friends when the advice is to just be busy, not get back to them very often etc.

I'm wondering whether to leave the ball in her court and let friend arrange something if / when she wants to, or whether I should actually try to get to the bottom of what's going on. So does anyone have any stories of asking a friend why they are avoiding you and getting an honest answer?

A friend would want to meet up OP and if they couldn't, would explain why and try to organise something. Friends tend to keep the line of communication open.

It sounds as though she wants you to get the hint and stop contacting her. I have no idea why and people often won't tell you. If there's a pattern here, you say that this has happened before, then it may be worth asking her what you've done so that you can stop doing whatever that is in future.

I would leave the ball in her court OP and in future, remember that friendship should be a two way thing. If you find yourself constantly chasing someone to meet up, then cut them loose.