No social life

[notmyhusbandsproperty]

I don't socialise much. I have few friends, the ones I do have are spread far and wide but worth their weight in gold. I occasionally meet up with other mums and get a coffee. Some of the other mums and the friends I do have are often posting on social media about how they have gone out for drinks with friends and have busy social lives. This makes me feel really jealous, like I'm missing out. But the think is, I'm happy!! If I was invited I wouldn't want to go!! I'm happy with my DH and children. Anyone else feel like this?? I can't work out why it bothers me so much!!

Sounds like FOMO (fear of missing out). Perhaps you worry that they are bonding "behind your back" and you're missing out on closer friendships?

However if you don't have a genuine need to socialise more than you already do, I wouldn't stress about it. I'm the same as you, I'm at my happiest when I'm home with my family, and when I do make plans to go out, I always regret it when the day comes. I am an introvert and it took me years to realise there's nothing wrong with that.

Thanks Bookworm. Sounds like me! Maybe I should try and ignore the feeling!! Xxxxx

Maybe you should make the effort to socialise: maybe the envy is telling you something. It's not really good to rely entirely on your dh and dc - it can come to be burdensome for them down the road.

I have a poor social life due to working FT, commuting, parenting, being v tired, geography etc. More acquaintances than friends locally, but it’s hard to develop friendships without making effort.

DH/DC alone isn’t ideal IME, eg increases risks of “empty nest” upheaval and isolation later on in life. Have seen this with my parents.

I don’t think it’s “fear of missing out”, think it’s consciousness that having few friends and little social life isn’t ideal.