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Notmovingforward · 29/02/2020 18:09

I am a 60 year old, fit, maybe handsome and a supportive Mr. Mom.

We have both enjoyed success in our careers, but as I am older, a good career role has been impossible.

When I was 50, I was told to undergo chemo therapy, and after five years of treatment, I was cured at 56. I am now very fit, but left hehind by the job market. My wife is a busy executive.

I am older but after my treatment, she was criticising me for my Mt. Mom responsibilities. I take care of every household responsibility. I have raised our two teenagers who are doing very well in school. She does manage the kids school activity, which she does well. However, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. have been managed by me. I nurture the kids.

After my last treatment, I had high blood pressure, depression and low testosterone.

The NHS gives me testosterone shots and viagra, but we have not had sex for 8 years. I simply unable to get hard. She said it was in my head, which was true. The urologist said she has to be involved or we will not have a sex life. My busy wife said it was my fault and if I cant get hard, I had to solve it.

About two years ago, fueled by menopause, she was on my back about working. She was aggressively nagging me about household work which she said I did poorly. She is gone 4 of 7 days each week in another town to work. No matter how many CVs or interviews I had, she said she resented me not having a job and to add to it, an income higher than hers. Despite the fact she is a CEO and loves her career, she again blamed me for having to work.

I tried and tried to talk about sex, but instead of helping, she would nag, nag, nag... I got so fed up, I found a marriage counsellor and forced her to go. It did seem to stop the nagging.

We are doing much better, and we still love each other.

Today, I told her that I just was approved for Caverject. I can now give myself injections before sex and my hardon is rigid lasting one hour.

She said it sounds painful. I cannot believe the lack of response. I am so fit. I have well defined muscles, I have lost a lot of weight and some may consider I am a tall good looking man. Do, her I am fit and able to make love again.

I guess I should just not have sex.

Any advise?

OP posts:
JudgeJudee · 29/02/2020 18:29

What’s “a Mr. Mom”?

Svolvaer · 29/02/2020 18:33

Assume a Mr Mom is a SAHD

Redyellowpink · 29/02/2020 18:40

Wrong audience

DDIJ · 29/02/2020 18:44

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whereishappyat · 29/02/2020 18:54

Wow you sound like you have had a lot to deal with over the years, I know you say you and your DW love each other still but how is your relationship otherwise? Do you have common interests? Minus the sex do you show each other affection? Kisses? Hand holds? Your DW sounds very resentful of you not working and if this has built up over years, a couple of counselling sessions isn't going to unravel it all. Can you go back to basics and include date nights?

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