Husband pinned me down ( drunk)

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He was calling me a slut and the scenario he gave me on why I was did happend he fabricated this entire situation didn't happen, the way he was acting and what he was saying was laughable.

So after an hour of him behaving like this I said a nasty comment to him and he quickly shot up and went for me grabbing my arms and throwing me down and he got in my face and agressivly said stuff to Me (like a man would do to another man before a fight).

I left. The house and haven't returned for 1 day
I have since spoken to him Since and apparently I was in his face and he told me numerous times to leave and I was shocked because This never happened, I was on the other side of the room when he shot up.
During the entire argument I was around 6 feet away from him and not once became aggressive I spoke to him the way you would tell a child off.

He frightens me.

I think it’s time to seek legal advice and start divorce proceedings. Divorce him for calling you a slut let alone being violent. Being drunk is no excuse. People get drunk all the time and don’t behave like this.

Are you able to stay out of the house?

It amazes me how he can fabricate and entire situation and still thinks it to be true the next day, this kind of thing always happens when he drinks he will say somthing happend when it didn't.
He is an embarresment.

That’s a classic trait of an abuser I’m afraid. They fabricate with so well they believe it.

He doesn't think it's true, though. He's gaslighting you. The only way he could possibly think other events occurred was because he was going through psychosis from drinking.
Either way you need to get away from him permanently.

If he’s insisting his lies are true, you know you need to leave

I wouldn't go back, this will only get worse if you allow this to happen again.
Aggression, gaslighting, threats, this is really bad and with my ex husband soon escalated to slapping, hitting and then punching.
Usually the first time there are apologies and tears, if he;'s doing this now you could be killed one day.
Run like hell and get a solicitor.

He frightens me

Listen to yourself. Don't doubt yourself and take action. Women often have an instinct and you are wise to listen to it. Quote from "the gift of fear"

,"intuition is always right in at least two important ways;
It is always in response to something.
it always has your best interest at heart"

OP it's impossible to advise without knowing more information. Are you married? What's the situation with the house? Do you have children?

If you're married, then you have rights to the family home. If you contact the police and report him for the assault then contact the NCDV regarding an Occupation Order in order to gain access to the property. Take photos of any marks on you and start a log of his behaviour. See your GP if you can and let her know what's going on. This is all for evidence for legal aid and court, should it get that far.

I can't imagine this happened in a vacuum, the relationship has been abusive for a while. It may help you to read Why Does He Do That by Bancroft and start working on an exit strategy from the relationship. His behaviour will get worse if he thinks you are serious about leaving and if you go back to him, now the violence has started.

Contact the National Centre for Domestic Violence 0808 2000 247 or your local DV organisation which you can find here for further help and advice.

He shows you who he is whenever he drinks.

Believe him...........and leave, nothing will get better, it will only get worse.

Keep yourself safe.

It amazes me how he can fabricate and entire situation and still thinks it to be true the next day

He probably doesn't believe it- it's called gaslighting- this way he can try and make you doubt yourself.

His behaviour is disturbing, and he is physically dangerous to you.

Please don't go back home, go somewhere else. xxx

Leave him

Best thing to do is stay out the house and seek some legal advice. He's telling lies as he is gaslighting you, typical abuser trait. So sorry you are going through this but don't be swayed should be promise to change, they never do

"Someone who is not abusive will not be abusive when they are either drunk or sober. And someone who is abusive is likely to be abusive whether drunk or sober. Alcohol is not the cause of either abuse or violence."

From here - the whole page is worth a read:
www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/alcohol_and_domestic_violence.html

He is only going to get worse, he's minimising it already.

So what IS keeping you with him then?

It's not that he thinks it's true, he is trying to convince you his version of events is truthful. You know it isn't and you know he is abusive.

Focus on what you are going to do, not what he's trying to convince you of.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It's not right.

I hope you're somewhere safe right now with people you can talk to. It does sound like you will be safer if you leave this relationship immediately. I'm not sure of your situation (married/kids/home owners) but there will stuff online to help you. Places like Women's Aid have really helpful websites.

Good luck love.