Single mom of 3

[Familyislife34]

I'm single for the first time in 11 years I'm 27 and have been with my ex partner now since I was 16 we have 3 kids and we were engaged and we were going to put a deposit down for a house.

I've not been happy with him for a while simply because he doesn't consider me I felt he treated me like a mom and not a woman. But I'm the type of woman to try and fix something that is broken and not run, but I have now found out he is cheating on me with a 18 year old for the past 7 months (he's 29). I did get in contact her with to let her know he's got a fiancé and kids and she was very shocked (I think) and doesn't seem to want anything to do with him now. And neither do I. I'll never be able to forgive this as it's made me feel so so so insecure. I know I shouldn't compare but she's beautiful, thin, youthful and she seems like she's full of energy and life and here's me .. podgy, saggy and exhausted.

We have been split up now 2 months and have gone our own ways in terms of living seperate and having the kids between us. He seems fine with his new life and here me thinking .. who will ever love me with 3 kids and all that goes with it. How will I ever meet someone new ? You hear of all these stories and a few months back one of my friends little girl was sexually abused by a man she had got with. I know I'm probably over thinking it but I'm so scared and I feel like this will hold me back forever.

Right now I don't want to be with anyone so I'm not trying to jump into anything Atleast for another year but the thought of being alone forever scares the crap out of me as these last 2 months have been so so hard and I don't want to be alone forever.

Advise, tips, anything is appreciated.

I am a single parent of two toddlers, my ex was abusive. All I can say is time really will heal things for you and you'll find a new normal. I agree about worrying about new men in your life but they don't necessarily have to be a massive part of your life so soon anyway. I'd never introduce my kids to any partner until a year or so in, if that. But doesn't mean you can't go out there and date. Online is the most common way though I suggest doing it when you feel better about yourself.

You are worth so much more than him and well done for being strong and ending the relationship when it's all you've ever known. You are definitely right in taking some time just for you and your children, don't rush into anything because being single is amazing. You are definitely wrong in saying you're saggy. You're a beautiful mum and every lump and bump shows how amazing your body is. Do things just for you when he has the kids whether that's buying a new mascara, doing a workout or having a drink with your friends. Your confidence will come back when you realise you only need validation from yourself. You've got this

I wouldn’t worry about it now tbh. You have been in a relationship since 16 just enjoy being single for now, you might meet someone you might not who knows. I’m a single mum to 4 and haven’t dated in 3 years at all. But plenty of people go on to meet men again, it’s not unheard of. You must know single mums who have gone on to meet new partners?