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Ghosters. Do you call them out?

12 replies

SpringtimeSun · 27/02/2020 16:19

Just that really. Online dating, I get that people are cowards, but is it worth calling them out?
I know I should be the bigger person, block and delete, but that feels like they are getting the easy way out they are obviously after.
I'm not meaning chase them either, I simply mean calling them out on their cowardly, childish behaviour?

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Winterlife · 27/02/2020 16:20

No.

noego · 27/02/2020 16:21

Nope, block, delete, move on.

CassidyStone · 27/02/2020 16:23

There's not really much point because they almost certainly won't answer and may even get a bit of kick out of knowing they've caused you to feel upset.

Just block, delete and move on to the next one. There ARE some decent men out there or so I've been told

Candyfloss99 · 27/02/2020 16:23

I get where your are coming from but in my experience ghosters just don't give a shit so it's pointless.

bangheadhere40 · 27/02/2020 16:24

No, just leave it. as PP says they may get a kick knowing you are bothered.

Dontsayyouloveme · 27/02/2020 16:34

Slightly off topic, but how long do you give someone to reply to your message? I tend to give them a day and a half/2 days, then I’ll just unmatch if no reply received.

I’m talking after just like a flattering first few messages , a day or twos chat, Followed by a ‘I’ll text you tomorrow and we can discuss arrangements to meet up blah blah’!

Am I unmatching too soon?

Original poster
SpringtimeSun · 27/02/2020 16:39

If we haven't met, I just move on.
I'm taking about after a few dates, with next one arranged, then they just stop replying.....

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Dontsayyouloveme · 27/02/2020 16:45

Ill start a separate thread for my question! Don’t want to Hijack!!

bangheadhere40 · 27/02/2020 16:50

If ghosting after dates they probably won't reply anyway. As frustrating as it is, I would just leave it.

@daisy maybe yeah, I would leave it a little longer possibly!

sonjadog · 27/02/2020 17:14

No point calling them out. As is the nature of ghosting, they will just ignore you.

ChangeOfName2020 · 27/02/2020 18:03

I've tended to just leave ghosters to it, as hurtful as it is.

Agree that by calling them out on it will just give them an ego boost and ensure they know you're really bothered about it so must have liked them.

I'm early days into blocking and deleting someone who did exactly this. Didn't reply to any of my messages and chose not to acknowledge my birthday. All after cancelling a weekend together we were supposed to be spending. What a twat.

In the long run it's best just to ignore them. Keep your dignity whilst the other person shows their true horrible colours.

FromTheEarth · 27/02/2020 18:26

I'd ignore tbh.

I did call someone out for ghosting after dating for 5 months. I just messaged and said that it was fine if he didn't want to see me anymore but I'd thought he was better than that.

He replied and apologised saying that I was right and he was very sorry. He hadn't known what to say and one day just ran into the next. Which i also also understood, tbf.

After a few dates..? I've done the same, tbh.

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