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If you met someone in your 50s - how did you meet them?

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Cheermeupplease22 · 26/02/2020 22:25

Or if it happened to someone you know.

Or roundabout that age.

Have been in one relationship that ended in a horrible divorce after years of emotional abuse. I am 51 now and sometimes get panicky thinking that that’s it for me - the one ultimately unsuccessful relationship Sad.

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LilyJade · 27/02/2020 15:09

Also got several colleagues in 50s who have got married in their 50s, some recently.

bluebellation · 27/02/2020 15:48

I met DH on a blind date when I was 49! I'd been single for 5 years and happily so, but my DDs were well into their teens and I knew they wouldn't need me around for much longer so agreed to meet up with a view to friendship/ someone to go to the theatre with etc - I definitely wasn't looking for a relationship. He'd moved in within 3 months, we were married a year later and will celebrate our 15th anniversary soon!

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Cheermeupplease22 · 27/02/2020 18:08

It seems like you feel you have to have a successful relationship to make up for the (ultimately) failed one; but it wasn't your failure by the sounds of it, so stop putting that on your shoulders.

You’re right @GilbertMarkham.

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Cheermeupplease22 · 27/02/2020 18:17

Thanks to everyone for your stories - I guess who knows what might be round the corner meeting people wise, but I suppose I should leave the house sometimes Grin.

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DeeCeeCherry · 27/02/2020 23:18

Went to a small venue concert on a date with a guy who was awful. Ignored me most of the night, chatting to people he knew. So I did same. Later went out to get fresh air & locked eyes with a gorgeous, distinguished man. I never make the 1st move but I did this time, a corny 'haven't I met you somewhere before' type line - that he still ribs me about, 6 years later...! I was 51 when we met.

GilbertMarkham · 27/02/2020 23:27

@DeeCeeCherry

Fantastic! You're my hero(ine).

More of us need to have your attitude to things (and by things I mean twatty men).

DeeCeeCherry · 27/02/2020 23:36

GilbertMarkham I wasn't going to risk him never crossing my path again😁 so I put my cringe mode aside & approached him. Mr Shit Date who I'd initially gone out with never ever saw me again, mind you. I'm too old to hang on to rubbish

GrumpyHoonMain · 27/02/2020 23:39

I would suggest joining a sports club / group. Climbing is really good for meeting good people.

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 27/02/2020 23:42

51 and a widow.....met a guy through work and instant connection.....getting married next year. I wasn't looking, and neither was he.....do not give up OP !!!!

WhiteBadger · 28/02/2020 00:14

I'm 52, single for 5 years. Been on many many many OLD dates but just no chemistry.

Think I will never find someone. :(

emmetgirl · 28/02/2020 00:26

Online dating!

CatAndHisKit · 28/02/2020 01:14

ooh I'm surprised to read so many success stories re OLD - seems to be proprtionately more than similar threads for younger women.

Do men over 50s behave better on OLD? no ghosting, lying about sdating others, etc?

WhiteBadger · 28/02/2020 01:30

Nope @CatAndHisKit they're just as fucking bad!!

In fact I'm meant to meeting someone tomorrow who I know is not telling me the truth about stuff .... I'm just waiting to hear what his excuse is for cancelling. Me and my mate have a bet on it. Corona virus is where my money is at!

OLD is soooooo shit! But what else to do!

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Cheermeupplease22 · 28/02/2020 09:25

do not give up OP !!!!

Will try not to Grin.

@DeeCeeCherry - congratulations on your courage! There was someone on a train about a year ago with a really lovely smile and I still kick myself for not having started some kind of conversation, but we were squished up when a load of other commuters and it would have been embarrassing!!!

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Cheermeupplease22 · 28/02/2020 09:40

with not when

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CatAndHisKit · 29/02/2020 00:37

WhiteBadger oh no - thought the more matire the less they'd want to play games! I'm thinking of trying it again after many years, but hmm...
Are you using tinder or a trad site?
Haha, surely at least trhe excuses have to be better/more clever by that age.

WhiteBadger · 29/02/2020 01:03

Using Tinder.

Yes his excuse was that the auditors still hadn't left his work ... at 7.30pm on a Friday night. All right then aye!

I then called him out about a picture he'd posted on Tinder of him jumping out of an airplane was actually a library photo. Twat. He blocked me!!

I'm annoyed I didn't catch him out before we'd moved to WhatsApp .... I hate it when a bad one gets through the net!

AskEvans · 29/02/2020 03:44

I met my partner in my 50s at an event i saw on the meetup app. Its not a dating app but an app telling you about lots of events/groups/things going on in your local area.

Sally99 · 03/03/2020 11:31

@AskEvans - what app did you use please?

I've just had a look at Spice but as usual there's nothing much going on in my area and the only sporting event with large numbers of men is hockey "for the fitness focused". Not sure I'm going to meet anyone my age there! I suppose I could volunteer to make the tea :(

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