Divorce Asking for a friend

[Lemonsarenottheonly]

He monitors her internet use.
They have decided to split.
He says they're to tell the kids today and put the house on the market tomorrow.
He has said he will take the kids off her.
She is currently a mess and desperately needs support.
Please help.

I think telling kids one day and house on market next v cruel to kids!

Citizens advice needs to be contacted and a free solicitor consultation as well.

Why cant she stay in the house? A home needs to provided for the kids and best option is to stay. If he was a decent man he’d leave whilst they sorted out their future amicably.

He wont take kids off her - he couldnt without good reason and I suspect an empty threat!

This is a great forum for support and advice

My advice to you/friend is that solicitors gave emergency lines and free 30 min appts for just this. I wasn't married but mine saw me free for over an hour as she could see how upset I was and really reassured me in short term. I went back to her and paid plenty when needed.

Don't panic is my advice. Men (not all of them) can be vile in this situation and can exert really controlling behaviour to keep you in line. V happy to be PMd if you need support x

I agree about the sale Lozzer, I'm sure he knows that she'd probably get to stay in the house and is trying to blindside her

He cant sell the house without her agreement assuming she is a joint owner. She has rights too!

He can't do a damn thing without your agreement legally.
Agree to nothing until you have seen a solicitor and, come on, these stupid threats, how exactly is he going to take the kids off you?
No can do, no court will take kids off a perfectly capable mother. He is the one liable to loose the kids if he persists with this bullshit. The courts have seen it all before.
He is trying to intimidate you and you continue to say no to everything until you have had legal advice.
Be reassured that he cannot do any of these things.

i went through this with both husband and neither one was able legally to carry out these ridiculous threats.
Husband number one actually lost custody completely because he was always going off on one.

She has a claim on the marital assets and he can't "take the kids off" her.

She needs to get legal advice, she needs to stay put (or take the kids with her if she needs to leave because he's a threat to her). If she's in danger, she needs to call the police. It may be possible to get an occupation order for the house - and non-molestation order if there's domestic abuse. If there is a history of domestic abuse, she may get legal aid for the divorce.