Too soon to date?

[Newmumma516789]

Hi everyone,

I separated from ex nearly a year ago, we share a DS together and divorce proceedings are underway.

I recently met a guy who I knew from school and we've been on two dates but I can't help feeling like it's too soon? It feels completely natural when we are together and is easy to be around him, we met naturally I didn't go out looking for a man. But in my head I'm thinking less then a year is too soon, but whens the right right time?

Anyone else felt like this? How do you know when it's ok to move on?

I'd only been 5 months out of a 23 year relationship when I met DP.

It felt right, he didn't push me for any kind of commitment and understood my boundaries.

I'd say dating is fine whenever you feel ready for it, just don't go jumping into anything with both feet, keep it casual.

I started dating two months after ending a 13 year relationship. I’d spent he preceding six months processing everything in therapy and knew I was over it. I just felt at peace with my decision. I worried it was ‘too soon’ but realised I was happy on my own, but was also excited to go and meet new people. In contrast, a break up in my 20s took me almost a year to get over, I was a mess. Couldn’t stop thinking about him. I don’t think there is a magic period of time. For me, I felt comfortable in my own skin, and wasn’t afraid of being alone. I wasn’t dating to ‘find someone’ - though like a PP, I did find someone, who respected my boundaries and until very recently we’d kept things very casual. Four months in we’re starting to think about it more seriously.

So, if it feels natural and you feel happy, and you don’t need this relationship for any sense of self worth...I say go for it.

I met someone 4 months after being widowed,totally out of the blue, but 4 years later we're still together. There is never a right or wrong time.

I met my now husband three weeks after leaving a 13 year relationship.. it just felt right and natural!!

Look, if you met him on your way home from the divorce lawyer's then that's a bit quick, but almost a year later? That's fine.

Are you getting confused with people getting remarried after they're widowed?

Thanks for all your replies.
I just wanted to hear if anyone else experienced these feelings. I realise there's no right time, I have been struggling with 'societys opinion' on not only being separated but I was also a single mum to an under 1 at the time. I guess I was just worried it would seem rushed especially as I'm not legally divorced.

It's nice to hear so many of you went on to meet your current partners.