Proving separation as grounds for divorce

[Chocie]

Just wondered if anyone can help me with what constitutes “ separation” when divorcing.
Been married for 20yr marriage and we have been essentially living separate lives for the last 5 years. We sleep in separate rooms and have talked about divorce but due to financial pressures we have just not done it. He would stay as we are as he leads a very separate life to us but I can’t carry on living like this. Im so low and finally after years of putting kids first, I need to do this to give me a future. Money is a huge concern and he uses it to cut off any discussions about our relationship issues so I feel very stuck.
Would our last 5 years count as separation ??? What would be have to do to prove it ???

Go see a solicitor and find out. This sounds so depressing and you really need to get out of this! Get your life back

You don't need to worry about this - just put "unreasonable behaviour" as the cause and provide some examples eg he sleeps in his own room, he lives his own life without regard to the family etc .