Do I have the right to feel hurt?

[peonyfairy03]

So my DH and I have been married 3 yrs together 6 this is both our second marriage.

My first marriage was abusive and controlling in every way DH is a dream compared to first husband.

I know we both have a past however tonight he has dropped a bombshell that he used to sleep with one of the bridesmaids at a wedding we are going to in 3 weeks time. We have talked in the past about previous partners Not once has he ever mentioned this person at all feel hurt he kept it and not sure why he said if she wasn’t going to be at the wedding he would never have told me.

Sorry just wanted to rant and he feels I have no right to feel cross at him but I do because he lied or deliberately didn’t ever mention her.

I imagine he has told you purely so there are no surprises at the wedding, and you aren't left feeling embarrassed.

The fact that she is messaging your husband, after having spent time with you on a hen do (assuming she knows the two of you are married), I would not be happy about.

I personally would ask my DH to deal with the situation and make it very clear that he has no interest in chatting/flirting with her, so she needs to quit while she's ahead!

Failing that I would likely message her myself, but that's probably not the best approach 😂 just adds fuel to the fire!

She did know we are married as she kept making gibes about how long it will last as apparently he gets board quickly!

After sleeping on it and hearing from you guys on here I feel much better about it. I’m trusting him to put a stop to any of her antics and if not I will just sit back and watch her make a fool of herself.

She sounds like a bit of a shit stirrer in that case op. I think you'll be fine. Enjoy the wedding and try not to let it get to you

I don’t understand why he hasn’t ‘shut her down’.

This shouldn’t have gone beyond her messaging him and him not replying in my opinion.