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how to make the break

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beechwood85 · 24/02/2020 21:10

As a quick summery, been in a sexless marriage for 12 years, I stayed for the kids, The youngest has now gone to Uni, and on new years day, I finally told her how unhappy I was, and we talked about separating, selling the house etc.., we've had it valued, and she was looking at houses for both her and me. however, in the last few weeks, we've been getting along well, in fact better than a long while, and now she is acting like its not happening, and talking about stuff in the summer. I'm not great at communicating, and don't like confrontation, but I want to tell her that I still want to split, as I cannot continue to live like brother and sister, and want a proper loving relationship. I'm struggling to broach the subject, and really don't want to cause her undue upset. I was thinking of writing her a letter, but this seems cowardly. I know 'man up' is the answer, but I truly find it so difficult. I just want to move forward, i'm 52 and don't want to waste time living in limbo, only to end up back in the same place in a years time.

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salinali · 25/02/2020 23:00

Hi,
Sorry to hear you are so unhappy. It sounds like she is trying to get along with you to avoid the inevitable.. maybe she hopes you can fix the problems somehow. If this is not a solution then I do think sitting down with her once more may reiterate what you have already told her may help.

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