Don't know what to think

[Adamavitch123]

I ended my 3 year relationship 2 days ago after months of arguments. It's not really the arguments that got to me it was how he treated me during these times talking to me like absolute dirt and then ignoring me until I felt worthless enough to beg for him back.

This time, though, I have refused to do it and today he has been texting me about the weather, telling me to "stay safe" And trying to make conversation.

It's really messing with my head. For context, I have BPD and really struggle with emotions. I can't tell if he's trying to be civil for the sake of our DD or if he's dangling the carrot waiting for me to crack and beg.

Any insight welcome!

Don't think about it. Go No Contact at all unless it's about your DD.

As you say yourself, he's dangling the carrot waiting for you to crack and beg. He's playing all nicey-nicey to make you doubt yourself.

Don't fall for it.

Borderlines seem to attract narcissists a lot for some reason. It's like moths to a flame.

Block his number.
And maybe watch some youTube videos on narcissists.

I defnitely won't crack and beg don't worry!

I was only recently diagnosed with BPD after years of struggles and an abusive marriage. I've been reading Lundy Bancroft and have been doing research on narcs.

I'm being strong but think I'll post here when I feel like cracking so I don't. I need to be a good example to my DD this is totally unacceptable

Im worried that if I keep this way he will either

1. turn nasty when I'm currently forced to live with him

2. shock me and actually be nice and fool me into going back when I know it's not working

Help me stay strong! I'm trying NC but we live together and both have nowhere to go