Sorry this is me be feeling a bit sorry for myself but does anyone else long for a close relationship with their mum.and just not have one. I have an 'arms length' in terms of emotional relationship with my mum. Growing up we used to do things together like go shopping. She now says she doesn't like shopping. I try to engage her when I see her and ask her questions and hope we can be close but it's like she can't/won't. I see mum's and daughters doing things together and people talking fondly about their relationship with their mum's and it makes me sad. My mum can be quite mean/bitchy at times to me so on the one hand I know that perhaps it's not possibly. I just wish we could have a close relationship. Are some people just not capable? She laughs at the TV I watch, sniggers at stuff I say sometimes. I just feel lost sometimes and with 3 kids I really want a close relationship with them and I worry I don't or won't know how when they get older.
My sister's do not have a close relationship with her either.
Sometimes we have been to things with the kids but she nearly always drags my dad along with her so I don't feel we have that time much to talk. I see other mum's going to play groups and cafes with their mum's and it makes me jealous and just confused about why my mum never seems interested in making a close relationship with me. I start to wonder what I can do and try to twist myself to make her like me ... it's embarrassing but I just feel so frustrated! I see her a few times a week and we 'get on' but it just seems so shallow and I can't relax or really be myself around her. Just wanted to share this really as it's getting me down at the moment.